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randomuser64746 Thu 19-May-16 15:18:10

So after years of trying and MC's we are having our 12 week scan tomorrow.

We have had private scans every week and doplar every day and everything is fine but we have never had a baby this size all of out MC's have been at 7-10 weeks.

We are so nervous I cant work, I can think of nothing else. For years we have tried to get here and every time is been bad news at the 12 week scan.

Tomorrow morning at 9:10 we have to go back into the same room were time after time they said sorry there is no heartbeat and I cannot focus on anything else. Right now this dream seems real and tomorrow it could all blow up in my face again. Im dreading it so much and ma in tears as I right this. I could hear the heartbeat this morning on the dopplar at 156 which is perfect and had a scan last week which was fine but none of that reassures me in the slightest. This NHS scan is the big one and The fact that after all these year I might be finally able to tell my parents & friends that I am having a baby (they know nothing about the MC's) is an amazing concept but then I hate myself for thinking like that as I know that there maybe no heartbeat.

I don't know what anyone can say to help reassure me. I know there is only a 2% chance of a MC now but that is a stat that I have lost on before and so means nothing to me.

Right now the dream is alive and in 20 hours that dream could well be dead again and I don't know if I have the strength to go through another MC I really don't. Im so tired and exhausted booth physically and mentally I just want to lay down and give up but I know I need to be this pillar of strength of my wife and so Ill just suck it up, have a cup o Tea and crack on.

anyone who read this please throw up a little prayer to whatever god you believe in and keep your fingers crossed for us because I really need it to work this time.

guiltynetter Thu 19-May-16 15:22:48

everything crossed for you. here's hoping for good news.

ThatsMyStapler Thu 19-May-16 15:27:57

oh op - my fingers are so tightly crossed for you they hurt flowers

EricaPrimrose Thu 19-May-16 15:38:39

As someone who has been through a similar thing, I'm keeping everything crossed for you. Good luck flowersstar

randomuser64746 Thu 19-May-16 16:15:38

thank you so much everyone.

I was having a bit of a moment there. Cup of tea makes everything better. Just trying to have a busy evening to keep my mind off things.

Its funny really if everything goes OK and we tell people everyone will be so happy for us and it will be exciting good news, and nobody needs to know our journey.

Levithecat Thu 19-May-16 19:28:44

Will be thinking of you - all the very, very best for tomorrow X

daisydalrymple Thu 19-May-16 19:56:33

Keeping everything crossed and please come back and show us your healthy scan pic tomorrow smile I was a wreck going for my scan after just one previous mmc, so I can't imagine your nerves, but as hard as it is, try not to let the nerves overshadow the special moment.

And I really hope you can relax tonight and sleep well xx

StrangeDream Thu 19-May-16 21:03:44

My goodness. My heart goes out to you. You sound amazingly strong. Wishing you all the luck in the world for tomorrow. flowers

Pearlmum1 Thu 19-May-16 21:13:01

Good luck for tomorrow, the waiting must be hard. I hope to see good news tomorrow! X

Flumpsnlumpsnstuff Thu 19-May-16 21:30:29

Good luck and I'm throwing up prayers and fingers crossed for you both op

Flumpsnlumpsnstuff Thu 19-May-16 21:30:54

Good luck and I'm throwing up prayers and fingers crossed for you both op

gingerbreadmanm Thu 19-May-16 21:33:33

Saying a little prayer for you! Good luck for tomo cant wait to see pic.

jaffajiffy Thu 19-May-16 21:36:09

Hello and I can completely relate. Not that you will relax in any way until a good scan tomorrow, but my doctor said a 9/10 week scan is "the same" as the nhs 12/13 week scan for miscarriage risk. Nhs waits til 12 weeks to measure the Nuchal fold and screen for chromosomal problems at the same time. So I'd encourage you to take heart from your weekly private scans if you can. Let us know tomorrow; I'll be thinking of you x

randomuser64746 Fri 20-May-16 00:27:06

Cant sleep tonight, just pacing the house trying to relax. Even if we make it there is still 27 more weeks to go ... The first time was so care free and exciting just like the movies and know I'm just anxious and worried constantly. I know technically I have had a 12 week scan so should relax but it was private and is just not the same, its all about photos and teddybears with the babys heartbeat in. We are probably going to carry on having private scans as much as i hate the scans its better than not knowing thinking everything is fine.

On the plus if we make it tomorrow its the furthest we have ever got and might finally be able to start thinking about names or birthing plans and cots and all the exciting stuff.

It feels a bit like playing a game and being stuck on level 2 (level 1 being getting pregnant) and finally we are going to get to level 3 and be so happy and excited only to realise there is a long way to go...

still thank all of you for your words of support and in less than 9 hours I will know one way or the other.

StrangeDream Fri 20-May-16 01:54:39

Stay strong, OP. I had a miscarriage last year. The baby currently attached to my boob was born a year to the day after we had that miscarriage. He's my little miracle. smile

Can you put some inane tv on? flowers

Alb1 Fri 20-May-16 08:38:08

Good luck this morning OP, let us no how you get on flowers

CottonSock Fri 20-May-16 08:41:13

Good luck op. I've been in this position too. Hopefully in an hours time you will have wonderful news, good luck (I'm 35 weeks with mine, good things do happen).

guiltynetter Fri 20-May-16 16:15:04

hope it was good news for you OP x

StrangeDream Sat 21-May-16 08:52:00

How did you get on, op? flowers

Ohwhatbliss Sat 21-May-16 14:49:27

Another thinking of you OP X

cookielove Sat 21-May-16 17:29:18

Thinking of you op

redstrawberries101 Sat 21-May-16 20:24:22

Thinking of you op xxx

flumpybear Sat 21-May-16 20:28:25

Hope it was ok!! I've had multiple miscarriages and now he a four and seven year old ... Both took two years each ttc with multiple Mc - there is light xxx

randomuser64746 Sun 22-May-16 10:05:21

thank u everyone for you messages.

Scan was so tense but we are 13 weeks and 5 days and all is looking good.

So now into second tri and are 14 weeks today!

Thank u all so much.

JustABigBearAlan Sun 22-May-16 10:15:51

Brilliant news! So pleased all is looking good.

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