Hi,
I am not really sure why I am posting, except that I am just well and truly distraught after three baby losses in 2.5 years.
We have a 4 year old daughter who, thankfully, is our ray of sunshine through the bleakness of recent years. We lost a little girl at 19+6 ten days before Christmas last year, due to suspected infection and/or "incompetent cervix" (I hate that term, makes you feel like such a failure). Life has been so incredibly dark since this time, the pain of our most recent loss In particular has been so traumatic. I lost my waters at 19 weeks and I nearly went into kidney failure with the sepsis that ensued, I am lucky to be here tbh, but I ache so much for the perfect little girl we lost. We have lost two babies prior to this loss (mc no. 1 at 7 weeks, and mc no. 2 at 10 weeks which took 10 months to resolve through two lots of tablets and two D and C's, which was very upsetting as I lived through the miscarriage for longer than I would have been pregnant).
I have been in counselling and CBT since February, I go to acupuncture, and I am now in a position where I am starting to enjoy some elements of life again, but I was wondering whether anyone else felt incredibly lonely? I am surrounded by lots of friends who have recently had babies, and although some have had their struggles, no one has had a late loss like me (thank god, I wouldn't wish it on anyone, it is the worst pain imaginable to deliver your dead child) and most have luckily not experienced any losses at all, but I feel like my friendships have also changed. Some don't know what to say anymore as we have been losing babies and grieving all three cumulatively for so long, and don't say anything at all, which is hurtful in itself, and others I think just think I'm over it and "you'll have another one, it'll be fine". I do want to try again, and am having level one tests done at st Mary's and level two tests done at Care, but it is all so sad that my youngest daughter is gone, my living eldest child is missing being a big sister, and we just feel so lost and wondering what we did to deserve all this pain...
Sorry about the long post. Just feeling like the odd one out and wondering why we are going through all this, baby loss is all-consuming and ever so lonely.
Thanks for reading xx
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Feeling numb after culmination of late mc and two early mc's
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JOMH1982 · 07/05/2016 21:01
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