Have been ttc after a mc but now I'm not sure

[sizeofalentil]

Dh and I have been casually ttc after a mc back in March - in that we're not trying, but we're not preventing a pregnancy.

My period is due on the 17th, and today I have been gripped with horrible irrational feelings - I'm not sure what's going to be worse: a bfp or a bfn. Been weirdly upset and irritable about this all day. I just hated how out of control I felt last time.

Has anyone else had fears about trying again after a mc? I have this irrational belief that I am going to mc twice before having a baby but not sure I want to put myself at risk by trying again.

[Abigail12]

Sorry for your loss I'm in a similar position to you, had mc in December and ttc since. Each month I'm equally disappointed and relieved at the same time when my period comes. My hormones are still unsettled- your mc was very recent so it's no wonder you're feeling this way- your hormones will be playing havoc. Be kind to yourself, you've had a traumatic experience and it's natural to worry about it happening again but as you said you know you're being irrational. Wishing you all the best x

[sizeofalentil]

Thank you xxxx

[Writerwannabe83]

Sorry for your loss

I had a miscarriage in March too (at 6 weeks pregnant) and me and DH haven't had sex since. He was keen to start trying again straight away but I just couldn't face it.

I'm too nervous to have sex because I don't know what will be worse, getting a BFP or having a period arrive.

It's really weird.

[Purpleprickles]

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this. I agree with previous posters and can totally relate to this. I had a mmc last May and by some miracle got pg straight after. We hadn't make the decision to try again at all it was more dtd to be close after a shifty time if that makes sense.

The positive test didn't fill either of us with joy just terror and my initial reaction was "I don't want this" because I couldn't do it all again. I was very anxious through my pregnancy and wouldn't really talk about it until after 20 weeks. I now have a healthy dd so a happy outcome.

I think when you have suffered a pregnancy loss it taints pregnancy for you and it's only natural to be fearful and anxious. No one really understands the pain of miscarriage until you have been through it, I understand this now. And it's natural not to want to open yourself up to the possibility of all that again. Give yourself time to heal, I'm sure you will know when you are ready. In terms of sanity I would never have planned my last year the way it happened but it ended well.

Good luck