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Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum.

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Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum.

Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

I am going through another late miscarriage

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marmiteontoast76 · 22/02/2016 15:33

I really can't believe this is happening again. Lost our little girl at 20 week scan in the summer, no cause found. We got pregnant a month later and have been having weekly scans throughout. We saw him at scan at 17 weeks and he was perfect. Couldn't feel much movement so had emergency scan yesterday and he was gone.

How am I ever going to get over this? I'm at home waiting for labour to start and am completely heartbroken.

Doctors said the chances of this are incredibly rare. Why me.

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TimidLividyetagain · 22/02/2016 15:35

I'm so sorry, do you have someone with you at home so you aren't alone.

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PurpleTraitor · 22/02/2016 15:36

I am sorry marmite. I have also been there, twice, so I can join the why me wonderings. Just like you I had a late MC dd and a late MC Ds.

Do you have someone with you?

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jellycat1 · 22/02/2016 15:51

So sorry for your loss

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Whatdoidohelp · 22/02/2016 15:55

In so sorry. Once is horrendous, twice is absolutely horrific.

Once you recover physically, I was going to say emotionally but I don't think you ever will - you need to speak to a specialist. It is so so rare there has to a reason now that it's happened twice as roughly the same stage. Can the baby have a postmortem?

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KittyandTeal · 22/02/2016 16:01

I'm so sorry you are going through this. How awful 💐

Have they given you tablets to start if labour or are you waiting for it happen naturally.

I have lost one baby at 22 weeks so I understand some of the pain but not this.

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2boysnamedR · 22/02/2016 16:05

I am so sorry this is happening to you. Twice seems incredibly hard. I hope you can talk to a consultant about why this has happened again. I just can't imagine

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marmiteontoast76 · 22/02/2016 16:23

Yes I've been given tablets to start things.
We are having a full post mortem. They didn't find anything wrong with baby last time. I can only think it's something wrong with me that wasn't picked up before.

I really really can't believe this. I am so sad that we not be able to have our much wanted third child.

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KittyandTeal · 22/02/2016 16:27

It is so sad. There are no words

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sleeplessinmybedroom · 22/02/2016 16:30

I'm so sorry for your losses. Take care of yourself.

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Pinkheart5915 · 22/02/2016 16:32

I am so sorry for your loss

I had a still birth back in 2010 and it's the hardest time we and hubby have ever been though

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Pacothepidgeon · 22/02/2016 19:05

so so sorry for your loss. Take care.

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Jw35 · 22/02/2016 19:17

That's just rotten luck I'm so sorry hope you get some answers and a rainbow baby one day

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Earlyday · 22/02/2016 21:11

So sorry this has happened to you and your little baby.

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mrsdiddlydoo · 22/02/2016 22:57

I have no words that can help you but wanted to send you love and strength to help you at this shitty time. Do you have some RL support? X

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FellOutOfBedTwice · 22/02/2016 23:10

I'm so sorry OP

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silverfingersandtoes · 22/02/2016 23:41

Thinking of you tonight Op and trying to send support

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Quodlibet · 22/02/2016 23:46

So terribly sorry for your losses. Be kind to yourself.

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cloudjumper · 22/02/2016 23:59

How awful that this is happening to you again. Wishing you lots of strength

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marmiteontoast76 · 23/02/2016 08:23

Thank you for all of your kind replies.
I'm now on my own in bed whilst dh takes kids to school and takes care of everything. He is being amazing.
I'm so sad. None of it makes any sense.

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mummytummy3 · 23/02/2016 08:46

I have been there too, over 10 years ago now. I was 28 weeks. And no cause was found either. I now have had two more healthy babies who are too active.

All we do is look after the children we have now. We are blessed to have them, if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. It's hard to say now for you as you are in the moment. Life is really short.

Not sure if it is your wish, but requested not to see this baby when it came out. So I don't keep having this image of it. It helps me a lot not knowing. I can't imagine if I did see it, I would be thinking about it everyday.

Keep yourself happy and healthy. Things like this will soon not be so important, the pain will go away. Take care.

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Palomb · 23/02/2016 10:14

I did see my 17w miscarriage and held her and had a funeral of sorts for her. She was beautiful. I don't think about it every day. I don't think about it at all really.

I'm sorry you have been though this twice op :(

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marmiteontoast76 · 23/02/2016 12:36

We will see him and hold him in a little basket, like we did last time. That helped us a lot before.
We also had a small and simple funeral last time so will do the same again.
Unbelievable that we will be saying goodbye to the second baby in 6 months. Life is cruel.

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Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 23/02/2016 12:38

I'm just so sorry. I can't even imagine your pain

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monkeytree · 23/02/2016 13:37

I am so sorry marmite, there are no words. I've had a late loss at 20 weeks too. Like you he was a much wanted 3rd child (who was also a miracle). I have Struggled to become pregnant again but would also be terrified of the same thing happening again (no reason found in pm). I can't believe life is so cruel - but it is, so sorry x. I think about late ds every day in one way or another. Also Purple and all the ladies who have had a late loss, so sorry you have been in this awful place too.