I am going through another late miscarriage

(74 Posts)
marmiteontoast76 Mon 22-Feb-16 15:33:17

I really can't believe this is happening again. Lost our little girl at 20 week scan in the summer, no cause found. We got pregnant a month later and have been having weekly scans throughout. We saw him at scan at 17 weeks and he was perfect. Couldn't feel much movement so had emergency scan yesterday and he was gone.

How am I ever going to get over this? I'm at home waiting for labour to start and am completely heartbroken.

Doctors said the chances of this are incredibly rare. Why me.

TimidLividyetagain Mon 22-Feb-16 15:35:50

I'm so sorry, do you have someone with you at home so you aren't alone.

PurpleTraitor Mon 22-Feb-16 15:36:10

I am sorry marmite. I have also been there, twice, so I can join the why me wonderings. Just like you I had a late MC dd and a late MC Ds.

Do you have someone with you?

jellycat1 Mon 22-Feb-16 15:51:18

So sorry for your loss sadthanks

Whatdoidohelp Mon 22-Feb-16 15:55:12

In so sorry. Once is horrendous, twice is absolutely horrific.

Once you recover physically, I was going to say emotionally but I don't think you ever will - you need to speak to a specialist. It is so so rare there has to a reason now that it's happened twice as roughly the same stage. Can the baby have a postmortem?

KittyandTeal Mon 22-Feb-16 16:01:27

I'm so sorry you are going through this. How awful 💐

Have they given you tablets to start if labour or are you waiting for it happen naturally.

I have lost one baby at 22 weeks so I understand some of the pain but not this.

2boysnamedR Mon 22-Feb-16 16:05:44

I am so sorry this is happening to you. Twice seems incredibly hard. I hope you can talk to a consultant about why this has happened again. I just can't imagine

marmiteontoast76 Mon 22-Feb-16 16:23:49

Yes I've been given tablets to start things.
We are having a full post mortem. They didn't find anything wrong with baby last time. I can only think it's something wrong with me that wasn't picked up before.

I really really can't believe this. I am so sad that we not be able to have our much wanted third child.

KittyandTeal Mon 22-Feb-16 16:27:53

It is so sad. There are no words

sleeplessinmybedroom Mon 22-Feb-16 16:30:07

I'm so sorry for your losses. Take care of yourself. flowers

Pinkheart5915 Mon 22-Feb-16 16:32:53

I am so sorry for your loss flowers

I had a still birth back in 2010 and it's the hardest time we and hubby have ever been though

Pacothepidgeon Mon 22-Feb-16 19:05:05

flowers so so sorry for your loss. Take care.

Jw35 Mon 22-Feb-16 19:17:11

That's just rotten luck I'm so sorry thanks hope you get some answers and a rainbow baby one day

Earlyday Mon 22-Feb-16 21:11:58

flowers
So sorry this has happened to you and your little baby.

mrsdiddlydoo Mon 22-Feb-16 22:57:28

I have no words that can help you but wanted to send you love and strength to help you at this shitty time. Do you have some RL support? X

FellOutOfBedTwice Mon 22-Feb-16 23:10:05

flowers I'm so sorry OP

silverfingersandtoes Mon 22-Feb-16 23:41:34

Thinking of you tonight Op and trying to send support flowers

ohnoppp Mon 22-Feb-16 23:44:09

flowers

Quodlibet Mon 22-Feb-16 23:46:30

So terribly sorry for your losses. Be kind to yourself.

cloudjumper Mon 22-Feb-16 23:59:05

How awful that this is happening to you again. Wishing you lots of strength thanks

marmiteontoast76 Tue 23-Feb-16 08:23:45

Thank you for all of your kind replies.
I'm now on my own in bed whilst dh takes kids to school and takes care of everything. He is being amazing.
I'm so sad. None of it makes any sense.

mummytummy3 Tue 23-Feb-16 08:46:44

I have been there too, over 10 years ago now. I was 28 weeks. And no cause was found either. I now have had two more healthy babies who are too active.

All we do is look after the children we have now. We are blessed to have them, if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. It's hard to say now for you as you are in the moment. Life is really short.

Not sure if it is your wish, but requested not to see this baby when it came out. So I don't keep having this image of it. It helps me a lot not knowing. I can't imagine if I did see it, I would be thinking about it everyday.

Keep yourself happy and healthy. Things like this will soon not be so important, the pain will go away. Take care.

Palomb Tue 23-Feb-16 10:14:10

I did see my 17w miscarriage and held her and had a funeral of sorts for her. She was beautiful. I don't think about it every day. I don't think about it at all really.

I'm sorry you have been though this twice op sad

marmiteontoast76 Tue 23-Feb-16 12:36:12

We will see him and hold him in a little basket, like we did last time. That helped us a lot before.
We also had a small and simple funeral last time so will do the same again.
Unbelievable that we will be saying goodbye to the second baby in 6 months. Life is cruel.

Snoopysimaginaryfriend Tue 23-Feb-16 12:38:49

I'm just so sorry. I can't even imagine your pain flowers

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