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3 miscarriages and some how I've stopped coping

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mistletoeprickles Sun 14-Feb-16 16:40:56

I don't know if I'm in need of advice of just need to get everything out really.

I've had 3 miscarriages since May 2015, the longest I've carried it 5+5 although i did have a successful pregnancy in 2010 resulting in DD.

DD was a happy accident but then we struggled and saw a fertility consultant prescribed clomid. The clomid resulted in 3 pregnancies but each one has gone on to a miscarriage.

I thought I was coping well with it but now I'm not so sure.

I'm battling with guilt all the time, guilt that I can't hold a pregnacy, that a can't provide DP with another baby.

I can't even talk about it anymore and I don't know why.
Possibly grieving again I don't know or understand what it is now.
I just feel broken.

KittyandTeal Sun 14-Feb-16 16:48:03

I'm really sorry your feeling like this.
Loosing babies at any stage will result in grief and grief comes on strange waves.

Let yourself feel whatever it is you need to 💐

Sully14 Sun 14-Feb-16 18:49:41

I'm so sorry to hear this 😔
It sounds identical to what I'm currently going through. My third miscarriage started last Sunday night. I had a successful pregnancy 4 1/2 years ago with my previous partner, me and my husband have been trying for nearly 3 years, I had my first miscarriage in May 15, second in December 15 and third in Feb 16. The first two were devastating but this time I don't feel I can cope anymore. I can't talk about it, I'm crying all the time, I don't want to get out of bed in the morning. I just seem to have lost all hope. I paint on a smile for the sake of my family but I feel like I'm so broken inside I can't be fixed this time 😖

Borisrules Tue 16-Feb-16 18:06:27

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. It's awful at whatever stage it happens. Be really kind to yourself. It's probably the worst thing I have ever had to go through.
Like you, I was relatively early on when it happened but this makes no difference when it comes to the grieving process. Comments like "at least you found out now before you got any further" were spectacularly unhelpful. You are grieving for the second child you have wanted/imagined for so long. I have discovered that the spectrum of responses and grief between individuals is massive. The only thing that has really helped me was counselling and I would strongly recommend it. The miscarriage association were useless. I paid a lot for private counselling. If you can afford it then it's money well spent. You also need several close friends who get what you are going through. A lot of people just don't at all. I'm sending a massive hug. I only went through it once and that was awful enough so I can't imagine how awful you are finding things at the moment. Feel free to PM me if needed.

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