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Miscarried at 10 weeks

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Cindarelli Wed 27-Jan-16 12:00:58

Hi just needed to talk about it because I feel OK one minute then crying and angry the next and also just wanted to share my experience as it was not what I was told to expect.

I started to bleed at 10 weeks and went to the hospital and the baby measured 8 weeks and they said it was a missed miscarriage. I decided I would go home and let nature take its course 2 days later I started having awful pains, didn't feel like period pains! I was on the toilet most of the night/early morning and pain was getting worse and worse and then I found out the baby and sac was stuck and I had to pull it out myself as it was just not pushing out, worst experience of my life! I then flushed my baby away in total shock at what had happened and now I feel completely awful at flushing my baby away.

Afterwards I felt like I kept weeing myself but it was blood and big flesh like clots which were also just as painful sorry tmi.

I wish I had known to expect this especially the baby and sac getting stuck and causing more pain until I realised.

I just want to feel normal again I'm still bleeding and feel empty, I had made so many plans we were so excited for our first baby.

Thanks for reading I just needed to talk.

OhShutUpThomas Wed 27-Jan-16 12:04:23

I'm so sorry this happened to you flowers

Have you got anyone to support you in real life?

Do keep talking on here, whatever helps flowers

Vixxfacee Wed 27-Jan-16 12:08:43

I am so sorry for your loss. That was a dreadful experience for you. Do you have anyone who can sit with you?

Cindarelli Wed 27-Jan-16 13:01:40

Yeah my partner has been brilliant it's just I needed to speak to people who have had the same experience and gotten over it as much as you can. I felt ready to be a mum and still do.

Lucinda15 Thu 28-Jan-16 07:20:07

I'm so sorry for ur loss and for the horrible experience you had. I think sadly some miscarriages can be more complicated than others. I had a miscarriage at 11.5 weeks, and was totally taken by surprise at how awful it was. I was expecting a heavy period, but ended up going through what felt like labour contractions (I have been through labour so know what they are!) and very heavy blood loss. I passed out several times and ended up in a&e, then admitted for emergency ercp on the ward without pain relief and had drips throughout the night. It was ghastly and the most scary thing I have ever been through - and that's even before considering the fact we lost our baby which was devastating. I just wasn't expecting it to be so traumatic and it shellshocked me.

Have you been to see your GP or the EPU? It would be a good idea to get check out, to make sure everything has passed and to check your blood levels in case u need iron tablets. Losing a lot of blood can make you feel very weak and run down. And I would consider Taking it very easy and having some time off work if you can get signed off.

It took me a month to feel physically better, but I struggled emotionally for about 3 months.l and felt very depressed for a time. I am doing a lot better but it still plays on my mind a lot. I have referred myself to the nhs counselling service but the waiting list is long and I wish I had done that sooner, perhaps you could consider that. The miscarriage association have been great as well - they have a helpline which I used and really found helpful.

You will get over this but you must be kind to yourself.

I am thinking of you and sending hugs flowers

Cindarelli Thu 28-Jan-16 11:40:18

Really having a bad time. I cannot sleep and haven't slept in my bed since, I am off work for another week. I keep telling my partner I'm ok because he is upset too and I don't like to see him like that and I feel like we have spoken enough. He wants to try again, it took us 9 years to feel ready and we were so very excited we planned way ahead and now our future is lost aswell.

I'm so sorry for your loss, the pain was the worst I've ever had I couldn't stand, move, sit, stay still ect I just couldn't do anything I was not expecting this. I assumed like you I would loose clots and be in discomfort. I'm sorry you had to go through this too I never really understood what people where going through until it happened to me.

Thank you for sharing your story with me.

I am going to hospital tomorrow to check everything has come away. I'm hoping it has so I don't have to have anything done. Maybe once that's over I can recover, I've had bad experience in the past with counselling so that's something I don't want to do and why I wanted to talk on here but it's different for everyone and I really hope it works for you xxx

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