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Early miscarriage

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Jadebelfield123 Mon 18-Jan-16 07:33:31

Hello, I recently had an early miscarriage, around five or six weeks. The miscarriage happened at home without any medical intervention and my doctor confirmed that the baby had been passed and no further treatment would be needed. i feel devastated that I've lost a baby and I'm crying a lot but I don't feel my partner is being very supportive. I already have an eight month old and the second baby was not planned. My partner and our families are basically telling me to move on from it because it was too early to be attached and my partner seems relieved that we won't have to pay for childcare for two children or have me give up work. it happened a week ago and no one has mentioned it. My mother in law has spoken to my partner and referred to it as 'the baby thing' and my sister in law hasn't bothered to ask if I'm okay and so I feel like I'm doing something wrong by crying and being sad and I'm pretending to be okay with it. if I mention it it's brushed off as something trivial. I haven't had any time off work and I haven't told work what's happened. I feel like if this is how my family feel about it work will be even less supportive but getting up everyday and pretending everything is okay is killing me. I don't know what to do. I feel so lost and their reactions are making me feel like i have to hide my feelings and it's exhausting.

Loki17 Mon 18-Jan-16 18:12:13

I'm so sorry for your loss. I follow a Facebook group called 'saying goodbye' which is helpful. One of their posts was really lovely and helped me a lot, it said 'Love begins when you see two lines on a pregnancy test'. You are grieving, allow yourself to grieve. flowers

DonnaF83 Tue 19-Jan-16 16:43:53

Hi jade sorry to hear such awful story hopefully find strength to get on , no matter when or how far on you are at the end of the day you suffered a MC and should receive all the support in the world your grieving and should be allowed to with the support of your family ! Time is a healer ! ♥️Xx

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