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DP has left weeks after mc :(

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Tuesday11 Wed 30-Dec-15 14:13:04

So I had a d&c at the start of the month for a mmc at 7 weeks. Then DP announces yesterday that he is leaving me as he's not happy with me anymore. He's packed a bag and gone to his parents.
We have been rowing more recently but I never thought it would come to this.
I just feel so angry and upset that he could do this now so close to the mc. I was obviously upset about what happened but was taking comfort in us trying again for another, which is what we'd agreed. Now I just feel so lost and upset, I'm having to face that I may never have a chance to have another baby or give Dd a sibling. I just don't know how I'm going to move on from this

smellsofelderberries Wed 30-Dec-15 16:55:45

I'm so so sorry you're going through this flowers what an utterly shit time for him to do this. It's going to be really hard for a while but you will get through this. Has he give you a reason why he's left?

Loki17 Wed 30-Dec-15 17:13:27

I'm really sorry. Your dp is behaving very intensively. Have you got anyone in real life that you can talk too?

Polgen20 Wed 30-Dec-15 17:38:59

Miscarriage and grief can cause friction and problems in relationships sometimes sad I think it also shows how people react to an awful time, was everything okay before the mc? After something like this it is perfectly natural to feel angry/sad and possibly blame yourself/your partner for anything you may have done which can cause rows (I mc last month and had a similar thing happen between me & DP). Perhaps it is best just to give him 'space' and let him hopefully come to his senses perhaps he just needs some time to deal with it and realise what he would be sacrificing

Tuesday11 Wed 30-Dec-15 19:07:35

Thank you for replies. I've got a friend who I can talk to so have support there. Things weren't great before the mc but then they weren't awful either so it does feel like it's completely out of the blue. He never mentioned being unhappy so it's come as a massive shock and he still hasn't given any reason other than he doesn't want us to be together any more. I think I'll just give him space and not contact him and hopefully I'll get an explanation at some point

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