Hi all.
I'm not sure if I'm ranting or venting or just need to talk. After 3.5 years of trying to conceive I finally got pregnant. On Friday at 16+4 I miscarried a little boy. I had no warning at all, no bleeding or stomach cramps, just a bit of back pain but then went to the loo and felt the sac start to come out. In the end it took less than an hour for the whole miscarriage. Unfortunately whilst in hospital I lost over 2 pints of blood and had surgery for a retained placenta. I have never felt anything so invasive in my whole life.
But now I'm home and we're coming up to the Christmas period and I'm feeling lost and guilty. I live 200 miles away from my family and I was going there for several days as we lost my dad suddenly at the end of June and we were getting together both to celebrate and support each other. Except I don't want to go now, the thought of trying to be cheerful and support my mum is awful. My mum doesn't even know as she was going on holiday the next day and I didn't want to spoil it.
All my partners family are coming to Manchester and he was staying here as he was working up until Christmas. But now he's saying I shouldn't be on my own on Christmas Day and to come with them. I've also had my MIL saying I'm not going to be on my own and I have to come with them. What on earth makes them feel I want to come and celebrate with them with 3 kids and a baby.
Am I being selfish? I'm still grieving over my Dad and now this. I just want to be left alone really and not feel forced into feeling festive. They all say I might have changed my mind by then but if I change it it'll be to go to my parents and I've been told to rest anyway which doesn't include long driving or train journeys. Has anyone else been through this kind of thing and how did you deal with this? I'm swinging between being angry and annoyed, sad and just wanting to be left alone.
And I'm sorry for writing an essay but it just all came out!
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Belfry1973 · 14/12/2015 10:03
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