Hello all...
I just need to vent a bit. I had my first miscarriahe in july at 11.5 weeks. Was very traumatic and passed out several times due to heavy blood loss. Ended up being admitted to hospital for drips & treatment/procedure to stop bleeding. It was a horrific experience & i think im still coming to terms with what happened although i am doing much much better than i was.
I had my second miscarriage last month at only 4.5 weeks. I only knew i was pregnant for 1 week and it was all over before it began really. It was much easier to manage emotionally and physically but still upsetting and hugely disappointing.
I am really trying to be kind to myself and and feeling stronger emotionally and seeking support where i can. I am exercising and spending time with friends and family and generally feel im moving on.
But then wvery now and then i get completely side tracked by insensitive comments or chance conversations/situations and i feel im back to square 1!! I just find it so frustrating.
Last wekend at my mil some of her friends visited with their baby. I am not too comfortable holding babies yet, i admit, so i busied myself tallking to the mum as the baby passed around. Then my mil prsctically forces the baby in my arms and harps on about how i am getting broody, 'look at u getting broody', 'oh yes she is getting broody just look at her'. She wouldn't shut up!! I bit my lip and just ignored it but its been on my mind for days now and i feel so angry with her. Does she not realise how we are feeling about losing our pregnancies?? I am just gobsmacked and so angry that she wld be so insensitive.
And today, dropping my ds at preschool one of the girls is pregnant and i asked how she was and during the conversation she tells me due date is the week my first mc wld be due. And i was fine and congratulated her and discussed preps for xmas etc etc. Then went to the car and sobbed my heart out.
.i just feel so frustrayed that i feel fine and feel im moving on and then get floored by these situations still. Out of nowhere. And i feel rubbish and like i have to start all over again. And everyone expects u to be fine cos it was a few months ago. But god...its not thag simple. And i wish i coild tell people and explain. But no one really wamts to hear it. And i feel so muted.
Gah..just needed to rant to people who would understand. No advice needed....just...raaa. lol.
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Faybells · 01/12/2015 13:17
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