SMM on Monday

(11 Posts)
Polyethyl Sat 08-Aug-15 22:23:23

My DD is 2.5yo. I miscarried at 5 weeks in March. Conceived again. Told at the 12 week scan that the baby died at 9 weeks. Having a SMM on Monday under GA.

I can't sleep for worrying that the miscarriage might start naturally before then.

I keep thinking that the baby's been dead inside me for 3 weeks already.

I had no idea anything was wrong. I have spent today playing with my DD thinking that there's a dead baby inside me. It is so morbid.

How quickly have people felt physically normal after an SMM? Been fit enough to get out of bed to play with a toddler again!

I shall not try to conceive again. This is the end of it for me.

princessconsuelobananahammock Sun 09-Aug-15 00:11:53

Hi, not sure if you've seen my thread a few threads down, it's something like 'my experience of a mmc' not sure how to link. I've written about what the procedure was like (ERPC) and who I saw etc. In short, it was ok. I was really scared beforehand but it was totally fine.

Recovery wise, I had mine at 4pm yesterday and felt a bit sore but ok. Today the same, I feel sort of bruised inside which I guess I probably am! Very, very little bleeding though which is what I was most dreading so that is good. I've spent quite a lot of time on the sofa today but also been out to the supermarket. I'm going to have another lazy day tomorrow but try to get back to normal (as possible) on Monday.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you twice. I think I'm just naively bumbling through thinking this is a minor hiccup. Take care.

Polyethyl Sun 09-Aug-15 00:15:23

Thank you.
Can't sleep for worrying that it'll start naturally before Monday. I would hate that.

Polyethyl Sun 09-Aug-15 05:17:17

Nil by mouth - can I assume that includes not drinking water?

If I have been told to arrive at noon - when might I hope to be discharged?

AnotherTimeMaybe Sun 09-Aug-15 05:26:05

OP don't worry if it starts naturally, I've had natural ones before, they don't last long
Really sorry flowers

princessconsuelobananahammock Sun 09-Aug-15 06:30:01

I was on the afternoon list so had to be back by 12.30. I'd had a cup of tea at 7 as mine wasn't planned for the day & they were fine. My letter said water only after 11.30. But I guess all hospitals organise it differently. I had to see a nurse, consultant & anaesthetist and was last on the list. I went in to surgery at 4, was discharged at about 6.30/45.flowers

princessconsuelobananahammock Sun 09-Aug-15 06:30:56

Also, I've woken up without feeling sore today. I hope yours goes smoothly too flowers

FindingNormal Sun 09-Aug-15 07:00:05

Hi. I am so so sorry about your babies, you must be so sad. Hope you've got support at home. I had an erpc (hate hate hate that term, I think it's disgusting and I very politely asked the doctor to stop referring to my baby as a product) last year in May. I had the surgery in the morning and was home by afternoon. Physically fine- no pain at all just some light bleeding ( and for some reason couldn't poo for a week though). Now looking at my beautiful baby girl who is 12 weeks old and born pretty much a year to the day that her brother/sister died. Don't give up hope x

Polyethyl Sun 09-Aug-15 08:52:51

My next question. how long do the doctors give you off work? One week or two?

FindingNormal Sun 09-Aug-15 09:43:22

The doctors in the hospital didn't give me a sick note at all and said i should try to get back to work ASAP. You can self certify for 7 calendar days though- and I went to my GP after that for some more time as wasn't emotionally ready to return. Had a total of 2 weeks off in total but honestly looking back I should have taken more because I was pretty broken by it all x

Polyethyl Sun 09-Aug-15 15:53:05

Congratulations on your baby.
I'm so grateful for my DD.

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