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First miscarriage and don't really know what is happening

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LadybirdSpots Thu 16-Jul-15 21:02:46

Sorry in advance if this has TMI in it!

I thought I was 12 pg, have been having brown spotting and flecks of red for a few days. Period pain started yesterday, so I saw my midwife yesterday who referred me for a scan today.

They told me that my baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks. I'm absolutely devastated, and can't believe I didn't know before now.
I decided I want to have surgery done, as I just couldn't face the thought of going home and my baby coming out of me at some point. They gave me 2 scans, and filled in all the paperwork etc, and I have surgery booked for tomorrow morning .

But since I've been home this afternoon, blood has been pouring out of me, I was filling pads so fast, and I was having contraction like pains and was in agony. I rung the hospital to make sure I wasn't bleeding too much, and they said it sounds like I'm doing really well, and that's it's progressing how's it's supposed to. She said they'll scan me in the morning, to see if anything is left, and go from there, and if he baby has passed they won't do surgery.

I was definitely passing clots, but couldn't bare to look and see if it was my baby.
I was bleeding very heavily for about 2 - 3 hours, and since then it's really slowed down. I'm not bleeding anywhere near as much.
Surely that can't be it? Could I have really passed my baby already? Or do miscarriages often calm down for a bit and then get worse? I'm so confused and just want to know what is happening. I thought heavy bleeding went on for ages and ages, but I may have been wrong?

Sorry for the long ramble, it's been such a long and exhausting couple of days, I just feel numb now, but am dreading the pain of losing my baby hitting me soon. I just can't believe it's all happening.

QforCucumber Thu 16-Jul-15 21:09:07

Though they will check tomorrow it sounds like you've passed it, with mine it was over about 4/5 hours and then immediately the pain stopped and bleeding subsided, if you can take someone with you tomorrow I would it's not a nice experience, lost mine at 8+2. flowers for you

andadietcoke Thu 16-Jul-15 21:10:49

I'm sorry for your loss.

Mine started and stopped and started again. I recommend sending someone out for night pads and the strongest painkillers they can find. I found a hot water bottle helped for the pain. I think I passed the sac about 24 hours after the bleeding started properly. The heavy bleeding continued for a couple of days after that.

Take care of yourself.

LadybirdSpots Thu 16-Jul-15 21:50:20

Thank for your replies, the not knowing is just horrible. In a way I hope that I do have the surgery tomorrow, at least then I know it'll all be done.

Sorry too for your losses, I wouldn't wish this on anyone, it's dreadful.

BombaySapper Fri 17-Jul-15 22:43:35

So sorry for your loss.

In my case the bleeding didn't slow down until they'd removed some tissue that was stuck in my cervix -- after which I felt a lot better.

My own feeling was that I wanted to avoid surgery because of the risks which are small but worth considering. But obv your decision.

All the best.

Sighing Sat 18-Jul-15 14:19:07

I'm sorry for your loss. As your due to be checked focus on taking care of yourself, don't focus on much beyond being as comfortable as you can. If the bleeding has slowed by itself then your body may well have passed something significant.
If this is a rest your body deserves it.

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