I'm not sure guys are welcome here, but I found few resources out there for us, so please forgive my trespass.
My wife is an amazingly talented and compassionate physician, and we just found out that she is not pregnant, but carrying a blighted ovum.
Kind of a surreal experience as the nurse who did the 12 week ultrasound was her friend and we went from this happy moment where everyone was joking around, to awkward measurements and a search for a non-partial doctor to break the news.
However, my wife saw the ultrasound screen the whole time and knew exactly what was up, and so when the doctor came in (another family friend), it was all but certain in my wife's mind what had happened.
The OB remarked at how well my wife was taking it, the we parted ways and I walked my wife down to get bloodwork drawn before she had to return to work, and I had to take our child home as the hospital is a stressful place, even when your mommy works there.
On the surface everything is ok, it just happened and we'll carry on. A slight hiccup as the cramping will certainly keep her off her feet for a day, which isn't possiable given her caseload, and the six month wait time before trying again gives us a narrow window to get pregnant before her next assignment.
- How can I be there? What can I do for such a strong woman?
- We are going on Holiday/vacation tomorrow, a driving holiday so we will be in the car for two six hour stretches with not much between origin and destination, so is there anything I should pack just in case?
We should have access to another hospital in the system my wife works in at our destination, so no worries there.
Thanks and pardon both my intrusion and my ignorance, I'm just trying to be something solid for my wife.
Thank you.