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flora717 Wed 11-Feb-15 12:33:12

This is probably the wrong place for this: Last year I had 2 miscarriages and a third suspected miscarriage. Since then we discussed giving up trying because enquiries to the Dr were very much 'these things happen / not much to do'. For the last 2 weeks I've had bleeding. Yes, it occurred to me it could be a miscarriage but essentially as I am 39 and my mother had menopause at 38 I really thought it was more that, as I've also had very strange sleep lately, my skin has gone strange and my emotions are all over the place. I didn't take a pregnancy test because really the period was, if anything, early (no longer tracking) and we hadn't had a great deal of sex in the month as my husband was away for work.
I made an appointment today with dr. she made me take a test. It was negative (Not a surprise to me). The dr is not interested in discussing possible menopause with me as she doubts it's that. I don't think I've miscarried, now neither does she. She said she wont refer me because and doesn't feel there are any relevant tests. I am so low and angry with my body. My periods (until now) have been clockwork. I have no idea what is wrong with me and the dr made it pretty plain i was wasting her time. I saw her because one of the other dr's last time I went was considering referal but said he'd talk to her / I should see her because this is her specialism. I am very lost now. I've been crying all morning from sheer frustration. I suppose I thought she'd have some sort of 'yes it sounds like early menopause' thing to say. But she was fairly plain that is unlikely and that as I hadn't even checked for pregnancy I was just wasting everyone's time.
Sorry, I've rambled. Has anyone had bleeding for more than 2 weeks that was neither a m/c nor menopause related? If so, when is the appropriate time to see a dr?
Thanks

bakingtins Wed 11-Feb-15 12:51:47

Hi flora I'm sorry you had such an unsympathetic reception. If it was an early MC it wouldn't be a massive surprise to get a negative test after a fortnight of bleeding, but without an initial positive test I doubt you are going to get far with that line of thought. Why was she so dismissive of early menopause if there's a family history? I thought age of your mother at menopause was the strongest predictor of when you'll go through it. Do you want to TTC again or have you drawn a line under it now? I think the answer to that is the decider whether to pursue RMC testing ( which 3 losses last year qualifies you for, irrespective of what's currently happening) or ho mone tests wrt menopause/ovarian reserve. Either way I'd go back and see a different doctor. You are v welcome on the RMC thread here if you have any questions about testing, plenty of us are a similar vintage. flowers

flora717 Wed 11-Feb-15 13:06:15

Thanks. After last year H and I had I suppose 'drawn a line' mostly using birth control but generally just working on the basis I am heading into menopause now.
I think I irritated her because I really do feel menopause is on me and she was clear this is unlikely.
I hadn't tested as our chance for pregnancy would have been very much an 'out there' as the two mc last year I was tracking ovulation, eating really well, we still struggled to get pregnant.
I realise testing might have been sensible. But i guess positive pregnancy tests hold no meaning now, so I'd left it.

bakingtins Wed 11-Feb-15 13:14:43

Did she listen to the bit about your mum? I would think the 'average' 39 yr old is unlikely to be menopausal, but your family history means it's a real possibility. She sounds awful either way, I hope someone else at your practice is more sympathetic.

flora717 Wed 11-Feb-15 13:24:14

Thanks. My husband is pretty pissed off he wants me to go back. I am just not able to face it today. Such a head wreck.
It is really annoying she didn't seem to absorb why I think menopause. She heard me, but said 'that shouldn't affect you'. I think to be fair that's where I disengaged and stopped having a point to being there. I think I will wait until I've stopped bleeding now. Maybe my hormones will get back under enough control to stop all these tears confused

juneau Wed 11-Feb-15 13:27:31

I'd go back (and perhaps see another doctor), and ask for a referral to a gynaecologist. You've had two/three miscarriages, which usually merits further investigation, plus you have a mother who had a very early menopause, so your worries should not be cast aside without some investigation.

Brummiegirl15 Wed 11-Feb-15 15:33:52

Don't write yourself off just yet for menopause. My Mum went through menopause at 37. I'm 38 and been pregnant 3 times in last year alone. Sadly they've all miscarried but I've been told I'm still ovulating.

My Mum reminds me to take her age with a pinch of salt as my Gran and my aunt were "knocking them out well into their forties apparently"

As you've had 3 mc's you are absolutely entitled to rmc testing and don't let anyone fob you off.

As Baking said, the rmc thread really is very supportive .

I'm so sorry for the hard time you are going through

flora717 Wed 11-Feb-15 17:30:46

Thanks Brummie. I seem to recall one of our miscarriages (I am a regular namechanger) were around the same time last year. Sorry to hear you've gone through more as well.

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