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Pipbin Sat 17-Jan-15 17:17:53

I just lost my only ever pregnancy that was conceived after 5 years of trying and three rounds of IVF. It is very unlikely that I will ever conceive again.

I want to keep the 7 and 8 week scan pictures that we had and also the first positive test I took.

Did you do the same? Is that a good thing to do? I threw away everything else when I got back from the hospital, all the leaflets from the midwife etc.

What did you keep? Did it help you?

purpleflower23 Sat 17-Jan-15 18:42:36

I'm so sorry for your loss flowers

I hung on to lots of leaflets, freebies, etc. for a long time shoved at the back of a drawer. Just before Christmas, I was feeling very brave & went through it all, chucking everything away apart from the scan photo & a couple of personal things which will help us remember. I've put them in a little memory box & haven't looked at them since but it helps to know they're there.


MabelBee Sat 17-Jan-15 18:46:11

I have a box tied up in ribbon with pregnancy notes, appointment letters, everything. I look at it once a year and remember my little one. I think it does help.

sizethree Sat 17-Jan-15 19:52:32

pipbin I'm so so sorry for your loss. It must be incredibly heartbreaking after all you've been through to get there.
I think keeping the scan pictures and positive test is lovely and it'd be nice to get a special box to home them in.
I've sadly had three miscarriages and for each I have bought a little piece of jewellery. So when I wear them I feel the connection.
Also on the due date of my first loss (2 & 3 haven't passed yet) I bought a beautiful white rose and my husband and I went down to our local beach at sunset and released the rose into the tide. It was very emotional but very healing.

BumWad Sun 18-Jan-15 16:16:31

Pipbin I am so sorry for your loss.

I would keep the scan pictures like you say. Do you have a yearly diary? I liked to keep that as it had all my appointments scribbled on it was a nice reminder. I keep all my things in a memory box which I do look through every now and then.

I wish you the best flowers

SunbathingCat Sun 18-Jan-15 16:30:25

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Worksallhours Wed 21-Jan-15 18:00:39

Just to let you know, pipbin, the result window on your pregnancy test may degrade (mine did, and I found it upsetting). If you want to keep a memory of it, it might be an idea to take a photo of the result window.


Pipbin Wed 21-Jan-15 18:20:07

Thank you all. Good thought Works I do have a picture of it but I will make sure.

NooNooMummy Thu 22-Jan-15 13:20:36

Hello. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. In answer to your question, I say keep anything and everything that you want. I wish I'd kept more. I think it's better to keep things and you can always review whether you still need it later. Put whatever you have left in a box put it away somewhere safe - that's what I'd do. Before I eventually had a successful pregnancy, the hospital letters were the only proof I had that I'd been pregnant. I don't know why I needed something tangible to remind me that I had carried life in me... Whatever you decide to do, it'll be the right thing.

Good luck and take it easy. Xx

(I'm a little late here. But I'm on another thread seeking advice about a different matter and I always feel obliged to answer some other's questions too- giving and taking...)

blacktreaclecat Thu 22-Jan-15 13:25:38

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I haven't kept anything. I do have an angel charm on my pandora bracelet and an angel that goes on the Christmas tree in memory of our losses. I sent ARC Christmas cards one year in memory of our tfmr angel.

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