Setback or blip, today

[catbus]

I had my second MMC of this year, confirmed at 11 weeks, two day before Christmas. I had an MVA the same day. That was as ok as it could have been. Afterwards, I was a bit wobbly and the nurse took my notes for me and assured me that they will let my MW know so I don't have to, as well as GP.
So this morning I get a voice mail from my MW- apologising for having to have cancelled my appt for this morning.
So she obviously doesn't know.
I know it's nobody's fault but this last week I've been feeling really good- stopped bleeding a week ago and ready to try again, once I've had a period.
It just slapped me in the face that I would be 15 weeks now and I feel angry I guess and almost jealous of myself iyswim? !
More pissed off than upset that I'm not pg. Which is lucky as it could have devastated someone else I'm sure.
Just needed to put it somewhere- sorry for the ramble.

[catbus]

Oh shit this was supposed to go in.Miscarriage section

[TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet]

Hi there
We've moved this for you
Very kindest

[catbus]

Thank you, theonlyOlivia

[sizethree]

catbus that's really shitty. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I totally understand how you're feeling, and it's absolutely normal. its a blip and you sound like you've been coping marvellously. There'll be a few more things that'll catch you off guard but don't let this dampen your brilliant positivity. I'm sure your midwife will be mortified when the notes get updated.
Fingers crossed you'll be attending another midwife appointment in the next few months.

[catbus]

sizethree thank you
It's my 4th loss in total but I have four wonderful DCs.
I feel weirdly pragmatic and positive about it all this time- and then guilty that I can 'move on' that fast.

[sizethree]

I've had three losses, still not DCs, but I bounced back quicker this most recent time. I felt that pang of guilt too but put it in it's place, as my faster recovery I think is down to having developed coping mechanisms and resilience and I'm proud of the hope I still have. There's no point in throwing yourself a pity party is there! Feel what you need to feel but the faster you bounce back the faster you can hold that newborn.
Here's hoping 2015 will be a lot kinder.

[catbus]

Back atcha sizethree
You sound very together- wishing you all success in the pregnancy minefield

[bakingtins]

Sorry that happened to you catbus it must have been a real slap in the chops. Please do complain to EPU and to GP/MW reception so whoever failed to pass on that information does actually do it next time. As you said, for someone coping less well than you it could be devastating.
All the best for TTC when you are ready.

[catbus]

That's a good point, bakingtins - I will do that. And thank you