Hi all
I am 33, have one 4 yr old DS and work 4 days a week in a public sector organisation. I had miscarriage no 5 over Christmas.
For the first 3 miscarriages, I took about a week of work each time and then carried on. (In fact the third one I flew to HongKong the following week for work). I totally felt 'well, they're not all destined to survive' and felt positive that it wouldn't be long before a sucessful pregnancy.
Miscarriage number 4 was different, it properly tipped me over the edge, it coincided with a temporary promotion and major building work on our house. Terrible timing all round, I ended up being off work with anxiety for 8 weeks. When I went back to work i moved out of the temporary promotion as soon as was decently possible, into a role at my lower grade, taking 3 weeks between the two to further recuperate. That was all last summer.
I spent the autumn trying to build up my strength, and was on the mend in terms of wellbeing. Felt like I was coping at home and work and things were going OK. (Albeit work was a bit full on and juggling work and family life is always tough)
Then over Christmas I had miscarriage number 5 and just like last time it has swept away my professional confidence. I simply cannot imagine myself functioning at work. I see the whole thing as beyond my resources. Very daunting. I want to reduce my hours or drop a grade or something similar. My sister is suggesting a phased return but I just don't see myself managing even that.
Has anyone else experienced this?
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AndCounting · 04/01/2015 14:12
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