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Why is life so cruel? Christmas and mc no. 3

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MrsGranny Fri 26-Dec-14 08:45:29

Hope everyone is having a lovely Christmas. I was until I started bleeding last night at 5 weeks 2 days pregnant. I'm away for Christmas but going home early today as I know it's happening again. 2014 has been the worst year of my life. Mmc in April 14 (@11wks), mc in October 14 (@7wks, mc in December 14 on Christmas Day/boxing day (@5+2wks). Absolutely devastated. Anyone been in a similar situation and had a healthy pregnancy. So scared I'll never carry past 6 weeks

Moln Fri 26-Dec-14 08:51:04

MrsGranny, I am so so sorry for you. I had a miscarriage Christmas 2010 and it broke my heart. I cannot imagine how you are feeling now. I have not advice for you I'm afraid, as I chose not to get pregnant again, but I couldn't read and not post some form or vitual hug.

ILoveYouBaby Fri 26-Dec-14 08:57:09

hand hold thanks

how bad is the bleeding? I'm currently bleeding on my third pregnancy (I think I'm about 5-6 weeks), but I'm hoping for the best right now as I've not got pain.

I bled in my previous two pregnancies, first ended in miscarriage, second in a gorgeous dd.

wtffgs Fri 26-Dec-14 09:57:16


MrsGranny Fri 26-Dec-14 10:07:38

Thank you, don't want to be sad as I already feel I've ruined everyone's Christmas. Only a bit of bleeding when I wipe and put a pad in last night and there was a bit this morning. Only have very mild period type pains but sure I recognise the signs/feeling :-( not holding out much hope

Greyhound Fri 26-Dec-14 10:10:37

So sorry sad

I had several miscarriages before da was born and it was horrific and soul destroying.

You should be offered investigative tests if you have had three losses.


Intastella Fri 26-Dec-14 10:15:00

I'm so sorry. I had 4 mc (2mmc and 2mc) all before 12 weeks over a couple of years and I remember how desolate I felt. Good news story is I now have a very lovely and lively 4 year old ds, so it can happen.

bitofanoddone Fri 26-Dec-14 10:19:01

You poor, poor thing. Please take heart. Two good friends have had many miscarriages and now have 3 and 4 children. My friend with 4 has had 7 miscarriages throughout. My friend with 3 had 4 before she some sort of fertility support.

DRSLondon Fri 26-Dec-14 18:40:03

I'm really sorry. It must be so devastating. But don't give up. You will get there and it will be worth it.
Ive had fertility struggles and a termination for medical reasons so I know what a rollercoaster it is.
Hang in there. Sending you strength x

MadgeMak Fri 26-Dec-14 18:51:55

Sorry for your losses.

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks in nov 2012, again at 5 weeks in jan 2013, then a MMC discovered at my 12 week scan in March 2013. However, I'm now sat snuggled on my sofa feeding my seven month old conceived within 12 months of that first miscarriage. So there is hope, but please do push for testing as I believe after three successive miscarriages this is available to determine if there is an underlying issue.

MadgeMak Fri 26-Dec-14 18:58:23

Also, you may not be miscarrying this time. Plenty of women experience bleeding in early pregnancy but go on to carry through to full term. You need to contact your EPU and get checked out.

Sillysausage2 Fri 26-Dec-14 19:49:15

It may be an implantation bleed? I had one on this pregnancy for the first time, actually thought it was my period and only occurred to me the day after that I'd had none since and maybe I should test.
I had a mmc at 11 weeks 4 years ago and another at 7 weeks 3 years ago, I never thought I'd get passed 12 weeks but I did, I have a nearly 2 year old dd and I'm 8 weeks pg now. We had a bit of a scare with bleeding but hcg levels are great and we had an early scan too.
Can you call your EPU? It might be too early for a scan but they'd do bloods for hcg?

Pancakeflipper Fri 26-Dec-14 19:55:41

I am hoping your bleed is not a MC. I bled badly in 2 pregnancies and both turned out ok.

Can you get a scan? And I know this is really hard but I think on the third miscarriage there's extra support medically (on why it might be happening and scans for future pregnancies - unless that's a regional/postcode thingy).

I really hope things aren't what you think. ((Hugs)) to you.

MrsGranny Fri 26-Dec-14 20:43:12

Thank you all for your posts. Phoned earlier and got a scan for Monday (earliest they could do). Had mild period type pains all day and bleeding but no large clots as in previous mc's. Don't want to let myself think there might be some hope as don't want to be disappointed. Will let you know how I get on on Monday

Sillysausage2 Fri 26-Dec-14 20:47:21

That's good, fingers crossed for you monday

MrsGranny Mon 29-Dec-14 20:37:25

Scan today confirmed I lost the baby. Now need to go to gp to be referred for tests. Fingers crossed 2015 is a better year

Pancakeflipper Mon 29-Dec-14 20:47:14

Oh MrsGranny, that's such sad news. I hope 2015 is a much better year for you and your family.

NeopreneMermaid Mon 29-Dec-14 20:58:18

You have had a properly shit year. 2014 can do one.

I had a miscarriage (5-6 weeks) on Boxing Day a few years ago (my first pregnancy) and it was singularly the worst thing I've been through. Like you, I was away, in a foreign country.

I've now got two DCs (with a second mc between them).

As other posters have said, you can have investigations now.

My heart goes out to you and I wish you a very happy 2015. Brighter days are ahead. thanks

bakingtins Mon 29-Dec-14 22:33:20

So sorry mrsGranny I bet you can't wait to stick two fingers up to 2014. I had 3 MC in the 10 months between sept12-june13 (and one in 2009) and following a diagnosis and treatment had a DD in May this year. The recurrent miscarriage thread on this board is a wonderful source of information and support, please do come and join us.

headlesschicken247 Tue 30-Dec-14 20:54:18

With you there. Waiting for 2014 to be over. 12 wk scan today showed miscarriage after seeing a heart beat at 8 weeks. Previous miscarriage in August and gallstones, pancreatitis and removal earlier I year. Husband also had to have hernia op. 2014 has been shit!

Brummiegirl15 Wed 31-Dec-14 19:20:52

Granny I feel your pain and grief.

Had a scan today - my 2nd one after seeing a hb at 7 weeks and my baby had died. I'm 9 weeks and this is my 3rd loss in a row. Devastated.

ERPC booked for Friday morning.

2015 has to be a better year as it cannot be any worse than 2014

bakingtins Wed 31-Dec-14 19:29:28

brummie sorry for your losses also. If at all possible ( and you may need to push for it) get products genetically tested after your ERPC. The rest of the testing is bloods that can, and in some cases need to be, done weeks after the MC but it's really important. To find out if your losses are due to genetic problems in the embryo or maternal factors. You Would be v welcome on the recurrent miscarriage thread also, we're about to start thread 15.

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