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FortyFacedFuckers Sat 15-Nov-14 07:19:01

Has anyone had one of these and can tell me what to expect? Thanks

FortyFacedFuckers Sat 15-Nov-14 10:26:02

Anybody? I am really anxious.

pocketsized Sat 15-Nov-14 10:35:39

So sorry that you are facing this OP.

I have, and physically it was fine. You have a general anaesthetic, and it takes about 1/2 an hour. I had it done on the day unit, so no other pregnant ladies around which I was relieved about. I didn't find it painful afterwards, but bled like a period for a few days. I was not happy both the care I had from my specific hospital, but the procedure itself was fine.

Having my DH in the hospital was a lifesaver for me, I really needed the support as it was suc an emotional time. If you have someone you really trust that can go with you, do that. Don't feel bad about "putting them out"

I hope that helps - I was very very teary through the whole thing (had tried to let nature take it's course but that hasn't worked completely so by the time I had the erpc things had been dragging out for days and I was emotionally exhausted) but was glad to have it physically over and not have the worry of how/when things would happen hanging over me.

When are you having yours? Be gentle with yourself, and be prepared for it to effect you more than you think. You are not a weirdo for getting upset, and you are not alone.

Good luck xx

Findingthisdifficult1234 Sat 15-Nov-14 10:39:33

Hello forty, im so sorry for your loss.
I had one back in March, it went fine, was painless and your put to sleep. When I woke up I just had period cramping and went home.l and rested. The whole op in total including the bein put to sleep only takes around 30mins.
We starte trying again straight away after the operation and I am now currently nearly 9 weeks pregnant. So it hasn't affected my fertility, though I did get concerned after reading about ashermans syndrome which is scarring of your uterus. But every operation comes with risks. The good thing about erpc is that it's over as soon as you've had the operation and you aren't waiting to miscarry which can take weeks.
How far gone were you when you found out?
I hope your ok x

TiddlesUpATree Sat 15-Nov-14 10:39:35

I had one this time last year after molar pregnancy. It was done under general. Was straightforward and I felt much better when I woke. Home the same day. Slight bleeding for a week or so. Was really pleased that it was over so quickly and that I didn't have to go through cramping/heavy bleeding at home. Good luck op xx

FortyFacedFuckers Sat 15-Nov-14 10:47:03

Thank you for the answers I am seriously anxious and very upset it took 6 years to get conceive this baby. I couldn't really take in what they were telling me yesterday when I spoke to the doctor. Although I thought they said DP wouldn't be able to wait with me? Also I'm glad it's in day surgery & not maternity I really couldn't cope with that. Will I physically be back to normal after it? Or will there be pain etc?

pocketsized Sat 15-Nov-14 11:02:54

I think hospital policy when I had mine was no one waiting, but they let my DH stay anyway. He was quite adamant he wasn't leaving me, and they didn't seem to mind.

I didn't find it painful at all afterwards, they don't cut anything, so I was warned I might feel a little bit bruised but I didn't at all. As PP said, I did have a little bit of period like cramping for a few days, but for me it was less than a normal period.

It's very difficult to take everything in when it's such a shock. Why not write down some of the questions you have and give your epu (or midwife if that's how you found out) a call. I always found them very patient and sympathetic and willing to go through things again once I'd calmed down.

FortyFacedFuckers Sat 15-Nov-14 11:03:12

Also I still feel pregnant, nausea, sore boobs etc which is making it harder to deal with, is that normal? Will that go away after the op?

FortyFacedFuckers Sat 15-Nov-14 11:05:01

Thank you I will give them a ring. I think I thought I would wake up today to find out it had been a nightmare.

pocketsized Sat 15-Nov-14 11:13:23

It unfortunately is normal forty as you still have the hormones in your body. It will probably take a day or two after the erpc for them to go away, and it's very likely to make you very emotional. Be kind to yourself, and take the time you need to process it.

I remember just cry and crying and wanting my baby back. I really struggled for a while, and thought I was very weak and pathetic to let it bother me so much. That made me feel very lonely, but reading the experiences of others on here made me realise it's just something that's not really talked about, and that other women find it just as hard. It does get easier, but it takes time, and I found trying to pretend I was fine just made it worse. I really did need to go through the grief process, for the future I had imagined. My DH was a rock through the whole thing, and I am forever grateful to him, but I know it was hard for him too, and he reached out to others for support as I just wasn't capable of it.

We have gone on to conceive again, although it took me a long time to feel ready to try. There is no right or wrong way or dealing with it, you just have to do what you can in that moment. I promise that it does get easier to manage though, and you will be able to cope, even when it feels like you can't.

FortyFacedFuckers Sat 15-Nov-14 11:28:14

Thank you for sharing. I don't want to/can't believe it's gone I keep thinking they have made a mistake and I will let them take my baby away when it was fine. I know I am being silly.

pocketsized Sat 15-Nov-14 11:38:37

It's not silly at all OP, and if those thoughts are really getting to you maybe speak to your dr and see if you can have a follow up scan (if that's something you think could help) so that you are sure in your mind. Unfortunately they don't tell you these things unless they are true, but it is easy for your mind to play tricks on you and it is better to be sure in your own thoughts than torture yourself that you might have made a mistake (even though logically you know this isn't the case)

FortyFacedFuckers Sat 15-Nov-14 11:41:53

Thanks I guess it helps to know its normal to still feel pregnant. I guess I just always thought if I had s miscarriage I would know iyswim.

kittyjones Sat 15-Nov-14 16:24:00

Hey Forty. So sorry for you. I had a ERPC on Weds after a MMC. My biggest upset was like you, still feeling pregnant but with no heartbeat visible. I'm a doctor and didn't really realise that I could still 'be' pregnant without a viable baby there...
I feel much better now I've had the op and getting back to non pregnant state and trying to move on. I've had very little pain and minimal bleeding, and boobs finally settling! Thinking of you.

FortyFacedFuckers Sun 16-Nov-14 03:43:54

Thanks kitty glad to know what I'm feeling is normal. I am very surprised by how devastated I feel. X

Beingblonde Sun 16-Nov-14 09:13:04

OP I really feel for you as I am going through a similar thing right now.

I was 10.5 weeks pregnant and last Sunday had a scan due to a tiny bit of bleeding. I was sure it was all going to be ok as I felt so pregnant still and with my DS (4) I had the same thing, at 10 weeks also. This time though they think the pregnancy ended at about 7.5 weeks. They sent me home to miscarry by myself which started on Wed night and shows no sign of slowing down yet.

Like you OP I feel utterly devastated and keep wondering why this happened to me. Also, I am a teacher and really can't be taking time off. I have to have a rescan on tues 25th to see if I will need an ERPC. If I do, surely I will need a couple of days off? I don't know what to expect either. Feeling desperately sad.

freelancegirl Sun 16-Nov-14 09:25:14

Sorry to hear of your loss. I've had 5 miscarriages, 3 of these ERPCs and in my experience they are a much better option than waiting to miscarry naturally. I've had good and bad treatment from the NHS when having these - twice everyone has been so lovely but the third time they left me to the very end of the day - after the minor knee ops etc - and were really uncaring about the fact I was upset, starving and still feeling very pregnant. The worst thing however is the emotional fact that you've lost the baby. The physical aspects of the ERPC are fine and at least get it over with quickly. Look after yourself, I hope you have supportive people around you. In happier news, after my two most recent ERPCs I have gone on to get pregnant relatively easily - one resulting in my DS (now 2) and the other resulting in what will hopefully be my second child (am currently 32 weeks).

kittyjones Sun 16-Nov-14 15:41:52

I know Forty, it's common but that does't detract from our own individual hurt. Even after a few days I'm feeling brighter. Still knackered and bloated but definitely improving. Hope the op goes well. My OH was there at the beginning of the day, but there was a lot of waiting around and so he went for a wander and I read before I went in. You'll be fine x

pocketsized Mon 17-Nov-14 19:52:32

Hi OP,

How are you doing today? X

FortyFacedFuckers Wed 26-Nov-14 20:32:40

Thanks for all the answers and sorry for everyone's loses. Just to update the erpc was no where near as bad as I expected.

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