Something not right- how long do I wait?(14 Posts)
According to LMP I am between 7 and 8 weeks pregnant. I have not had any bleeding or cramps but I really feel that something is not right with this pregnancy. I do not have any symptoms, I do not feel pregnant.
I have had several successful pregnancies, a MC and a MMC ( last year), so I have prior experience of how I feel in pregnancy.
I know every pregnancy is different but last time I had a super easy first trimester that was a MC and the bleeding didn't start until 11 weeks. Back then I was young and oblivious, this time I'm just waiting for the bleeding to start.
What would you do? Should I just wait it out? Last year when I reported the pregnancy that ended in MMC the GP was quite disapproving. I think this was due to me being over 40. I do not have any health problems or other issues and previous successful pregnancies have been straightforward so I can only think age was the "problem".
Part of me knows I just have to wait this out, but on the other hand I just want this over with. What would you do?
Hi, sorry for your previous losses. Could you contact your local EPU and let them know your concerns with having no symptoms and previous mmc? I have heard that some will give an early scan if you've had a mc previously although I doubt it's standard. Or at least they may do bloods for you to check your hcg levels. I had a mmc in sep and I think if it were me I would rather find out now if something was wrong and then hopefully be on the road to (physical) recovery sooner. But you do what feels right to you. I do hope your instincts are wrong and everything is ok. X
I'd try EPU and, if they won't scan you and you can afford it, have a private scan. It's a long time to wait until 12 weeks if your gut is saying something is not right. Hope you are wrong though!
Thanks for your quick replies. I remember after the MMC was discovered the nurse said that often once the woman has seen proof that the pregnancy has ended the bleeding will start. As if our bodies hold on to it while we still have hope. And indeed I did start to bleed a day or two later. So strange, but true!
I have thought about going to the EPU but don't want them thinking I'm just trying to wangle an early scan. I'm sure every woman would love one of those!
You are right, a private scan is a sensible option. Maybe I will hang on another week first and see if any symptoms emerge.
Amazing how a few short weeks can seem soooo long in these situations.
I'm in a similar situation I've been for a scan and been told there is no foetal pole and that I've had a large hematoma where the egg has implanted. I have to wait 2 weeks to find out if there is a heartbeat and the wait is horrible. I don't have any symptoms even though I did with my first. Please let us know the outcome and hopefully it's positive for both of us
Hope it works out for you Selina.
Was yours a private scan?
fromwesttoeast no it was an NHS one but I won't be having another one until Friday 21st by which point I will have probably had a mental breakdown considering going for a private scan next weekend to see if they can tell me any earlier what's going on, good or bad I just want any news now to end this limbo and waves of hopefulness and grief. How are you feeling tonight? X
I am telling myself to have patience. I know nothing can be done to change the situation, especially if what I suspect is true and the pregnancy has already stopped developing.
Really I would prefer the miscarriage to start naturally before I seek any medical help. It seems that even when it has passed the "products" can stay inside you quite a long time without doing harm. So, at the moment I am steeling myself to have patience and wait it out. The idea of a scan is very tempting, but once the docs get involved I feel under pressure to make decisions, I don't feel ready for that yet.
Just try to stay calm and relaxed Selina. Treat yourself as if you are pregnant (folic acid, keep off the caffeine etc) and you will know that you did all you could. The rest is not in your hands.
Easier said than done I know, but try.
Just thought I would update here as I know I like to find out the outcome on a thread.
A few days after I posted I had a tiny bit of spotting. Then yesterday I started to bleed very lightly and this has continued today. I am hoping that I will be able to complete the miscarriage at home, but if the bleeding drags on very slowly for too long I will see the GP.
Further update. Continued bleeding. Saw GP. Sent to EPU. Scan showed two empty sacs. That was a surprise! I was expecting one empty sac. But they said I had a strong positive test so they took bloods and will take more on Sunday to compare.
It's so weird. I cannot see how I could be bleeding, with two empty sacs, no pregnancy symptoms whatsoever and still be pregnant. I'm still thinking it's a miscarriage. (don't get me wrong- I would love to be pregnant, but being realistic here)
I guess it's all formalities that have to be gone through.
I'm just updating in case someone else reads here and can identify with the situation. There is such a wide variation in experiences of miscarriage. Whatever you are going through, I'm sure you are not alone.
I can't offer any advice from previous experience but I just wanted to say I've read your posts and feel for you. I've had a few but none like yours. Sounds terribly upsetting and confusing.
Thank you Happiness. It certainly is confusing, although I'm trying to stay focused on accepting this as a miscarriage as I find that easier than dealing with doubt.
I will be very nervous when they call me with blood test results tomorrow, but what can you do? Just wait, that's all.
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