Help I'm going crazy, miscarriages are ruling my life!

[Lucyjane34]

I have a beautiful daughter who is now 2, she was born in 2012, but before her I had a miscarriage at 10weeks, I was distraught and didn't know what to do as I was so close the the 12 week scan when I could start to relax. I started to have bleeding which could be good or bad but then it got heavier and heavier, I was booked in for a scan and then they confirmed that I had a miscarriage. You Starr doubting whether you can actually have children, but a couple of months later I fell pregnant and went on to have my daughter.
Last year we started trying for our second one and I fell pregnant straight away, only new I was pregnant as had to do a test as I had a night out drinking and I didn't want to do this if I was. I started to bleed again and it got worse, I was only 5 weeks but they decided to do a scan, got the the EPAU and they did a pregnancy test and it came back as negative, so another miscarriage was confirmed. I fell pregnant again in June and again I had bleeding and miscarried at 5 weeks 2 days, but didn't have to go to hospital as pregnancy test at home was negative. My husband and I thought that the chances of falling pregnant so quickly were very rare, but I did and I have no idea how far I am, as my period never came back, I did a clear blue test and it said 2-3weeks so this is 4-5 weeks pregnant, but ever ache and pain I get I start to panic, every time I go to the loo I wait for the blood. I dont have many symptoms, just sore boobs and tired. I am going crazy with worry as I really want this to be all ok but just can't stop stressing. Anyone got any ideas?. X

[Catlover2014]

Sorry to hear what you've been through. It's no wonder you are scared.

Mcs are much more common than people realise and people in RL tend to avoid talking about it so we don't know just how many women are effected.

I've had 2 mcs after 5 years of infertility and treatment. We are currently on meds and ttc again. I don't know how we will get through the worry when we get our next BFP but I do know we women are tough and we can do this.

I know of people who've had several mcs then gone on to have a healthy child and the likleihood is you will carry a healthy baby to full term this time.

Have you consider acupuncture, hypnotherapy or dru yoga / meditation? I would imagine there's lots of info online and it's worth a look as I have found these things help me to relax a little.

Also perhaps paying for an early scan somewhere when you get to abt 7 weeks will help to reassure you?

Hugs and sticky bean to you.

XxxX

[Mumof3xox]

Re your husband thinking the chances of falling pregnant quickly are rare I think you are actually most fertile after miscarriage or having a baby

[Lucyjane34]

Thanks for the messages ladies, I have the doctors tomorrow to see how far i am, I keep thinking I have pains but who knows.

I need to chill out but it's so tough as there are not many people I can talk to, I find it's easier talking to people who have gone through miscarriages as they understand the pain and loss.

It will happen for all of us, but just takes time.

Fingers crossed xxx

[Lucyjane34]

Had my 12 week scan on Monday and I'm actually 12weeks 6 days pregnant, it was such an emotional time but all is good. This one will be worth the wait! Xxxxx

[Flower29]

That's lovely news! x