In February this year I had a miscarriage. I didn’t know then how common it was but I think I knew deep down that I was going to have one.
In January when I found out I was pregnant I told mine and my partners parents who were SO excited and even though I begged them not to they started preparing for the baby. But I never had any pregnancy symptoms and this worried me.
At 8 weeks I started bleeding…only very little (when I wiped) I also felt something ‘drop’ into the toilet – like an egg sized ball of mucus? and then days later the bleeding got heavier so I went to hospital. They told me it was an empty sac and sent me home. I was devastated. – I was feeling so low all I did was cry. A few days later I was in a lot of pain so I went to the hospital where they booked me in for a D&C for the following week – so I had to live with this for another week!
However I didn't make it to my appointment – 2 days before the operation I felt something ‘drop’ and ran to the toilet where I passed a lot of tissue, I hoped that would be it but I had extreme pain and couldn't get up – I was in agony. My dad phoned 999 but they refused to send an ambulance and told me not to sit on the toilet but to get ‘comfortable’ – this was impossible and in the end I sat on the bathroom floor – literally soaking my P.J bottoms, a bath towel and the floor – 30 mins later an ambulance FINALLY turned up. The paramedic was worried especially since my blood pressure was rock bottom and the bleeding just wouldn't stop. It turns out I had some tissue ‘Stuck’ and because I lost so much blood I spent 4 days in hospital.
I still cry about the loss – even 5 months on – it was the worst experience of my life.
I found out on Sunday I am pregnant again (4 weeks) – and rather than jump for joy – I burst into tears which shocked my partner. I'm terrified. I can’t even think about planning for a baby – surely this is just another empty sac? I feel no symptoms at all (just a missed period) and all I want to do is cry – it’s becoming very stressful.
Has anyone had a bad experience like this and suffered no symptoms in their next pregnancy but had a healthy baby? I’m 26 with no other children.
Sorry for the very long post… I’m so scared
I had a MMC last year and was very anxious about it happening again when I became pregnant again this year. We asked the sonographer not to turn the screen on until she had found a heartbeat at our early scan as we were so convinced there would be a problem. But so far, at 14weeks, everything is going well.
One miscarriage does not increase the risks for following pregnancies at all. 4 wks is very early to start having symptoms, I had none until around 5 or six weeks and then my first was being very picky about food, with nausea gradually increasing over e next few weeks. I haven't had sore boobs and they haven't even got much bigger yet. I know it is terrifying, perhaps it is worth talking to your GP or Early Pregnancy Unit about an reassurance scan, they will usually do one after 8 weeks as they are likely to see a heartbeat then.
There is lots of support on mumsnet, try the posifrickintivity threads for lots of support from women in the same situation, the new baby stats on there are really reassuring.
Wishing you all the best for a healthy pregnancy this time round.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, miscarriage is so cruel and I completely understand your fear this time around. Please try and remember that this is a new, different pregnancy and the odds in your favour. Can you speak to your doctor and see if you can be sent for a reassurance scan in a few weeks time? Sending lots of love x
It's natural for you to feel scared after what you've been through and I think the next few weeks probably will be difficult - but hopefully as your pg progresses you will be able to start to relax. One of the posifrickintivity threads is for people who are pg after MC and as Cirsium says you would find lots of support on there.
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