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M/c no. 3 was 3 weeks ago - why is this one harder?

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resipsa Sat 14-Jun-14 23:35:05

I can't seem to get past it. Can't see the point in, well, anything as in the end life is always about loss and pain. Please tell me that I will feel differently soon...

Catlover2014 Sat 14-Jun-14 23:53:12

Respisa, I'm so sorry to hear of your losses and for how low you're feeling. It's only natural to grieve and it's really natutal to feel sad right now sad

Have you considering having some counselling? I had some last year and it helped quite a bit.

Whatever you decide I can assure you that you will feel brighter and ul have better days in the future.

Life is about lots of things, both happy and sad. Try your best to focus on the good things like chocolate, kittens and dancing!!

Feel free to PM me anytime.

Hugs xxxx

resipsa Sat 14-Jun-14 23:59:13

Hi Cat. How're you? I think that I'm officially 'depressed'; waking early, thoughts of hopelessness while awake, no 'joy' in life, vaguely suicidal (too weak to do anything about it though).

I know time heals but what to do while waiting is my problem...

My mum is a psychiatrist. Not sure if taking to her helps or not!

Catlover2014 Sun 15-Jun-14 00:15:12


So sorry to hear this sad If it helps I know just how you feel and I have been there.

It is very early days for you and given time I think you'll feel better. It's just a waiting game, hard as that game is. The hormones alone are bloody terrible aren't they?! Are you back at work now?

I suspect you're not suffering with depression so much as just depressed about what's happened, it's totally understandable. Talking to anyone who'll listen will help (especially mums who are great) but seeing someone a bit more removed / professional may be a good idea too.

I'm doing ok thank u. Horrendious day of crying and feeling down yesterday followed by a much better day today. 7 weeks since my 2nd mc and it's still a rollercoaster!


bakingtins Sun 15-Jun-14 09:07:47


IME every MC compounds the previous losses, especially if there is unresolved grief from earlier ones. After 3, you should be referred for tests, finding an answer to your losses and hopefully treatment can be very healing, though you need to be aware that the NHS tests only give you an answer in 50% of cases. See your GP and get the ball rolling, even if at the moment you don't want to try again. It will take a while to complete the testing process, you deserve to make that decision in full possession of the facts and aware of any possible treatment that improves your chances of a brighter future. Come join the RMC thread for some support as well.

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