Hello
This is my first post, and I hope I am posting in the right area or that someone will redirect me if I am not.
I recently learned that one of my closest friends from secondary school lost her baby at a late stage in her pregnancy a few months ago. She told me the news but did not go into details as to what happened, and I did not want to pry.
We live thousands of miles apart, chat over Facebook etc, but do not see each other very often.
While I have no experience of this kind of loss, I do have experience of other sorts of bereavement. Based on that, I told her I would be willing to listen if she or her partner needed to vent, rage against the injustice of the universe, reminisce or talk about their hopes and dreams for their lost son. I hope that was supportive rather than intrusive. She said their local friends and family are being supportive so I hope my response did not imply that I thought it wasn't.
As I am so far away and this news is new to me, I would really like to send the family something (card? Some sort of memorial gift? Something else?) to let them know I am thinking of them, but I am not sure what to send, or even if this is a good idea or would cause more hurt. Could anyone advise on what I should or should not do/send/write?
Thank you for your help with this, and I am sorry that much of your advice will come from personal, painful experience.
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bluegardens · 18/04/2014 18:01
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