11weeks but missed mc at 6weeks

[elephant76]

I started lightly bleeding last Monday and had a scan on Friday when I would be 11weeks but foetus measured 5weeks 5days. I'm still bleeding, mild occasionally cramps and not heavier, probably less than a normal period. Should I expect worse to come? I need another scan Friday as was no heartbeat but measured too small for them too 100% say a negative but my nausea has dwindled over the last week and I know my dates were right. They say I have options if I haven't fully miscarried on Friday, I think I would rather they intervened as I feel in no mans land. Also on my dates and size of foetus it died before I did pregnancy test? Is this possible? I feel tricked I was so so exhausted and sick and the foetus had already stopped growing.

[Hessy]

I am so sorry Elephant. There are wiser women than me who will be along to offer more specific advice. My mmc was at '12wks' but baby died at seven. I had severe cramps, doubled over in pain and passed large clots over one afternoon then bled like a period for another five days. I didn't take a pregnancy test at the time but I understand from this forum that your hormone levels can still result in a positive test weeks later.

I mc naturally but many women - again on here - feel really positive about the experience of having an ERPC (op) to manage the mc.

Be kind to yourself over this difficult time. Keep posting.

[elephant76]

Does anyone know how long it can take. Still light bleeding although in more discomfort today than have been. I was off work last week and this week anyway but due back next week and worried if it hasn't happened something horrid could happen at work!

[Hessy]

Can you go back to the EPAU and get a scan to see if everything has passed? I was told to return after two weeks but used the drop-in after one as I felt convinced everything had passed. Good luck.

[DoctorDonnaNoble]

I had the op (also after losing at about 5 weeks). The wait is to make absolutely sure they're right. The alternative doesn't bear thinking about. There will be someone else along soon who MC'd naturally to help further. I had the op on the Friday and went back to work on Monday (I'm a teacher). It was too soon. I was absolutely exhausted. Took the Tuesday off. I had a general anaesthetic which probably affected that.

[elephant76]

Thanks everyone for your time/advice. Its been lighter bleeding that a period and only some tiny specks clots a few days ago and today. I spoke to the epc and asked if they can do something Friday if I haven't miscarried naturally. They can but probably not on Friday due to the bank holidays. I'll decide about work after Friday I think. I have read a lot about it and had advice from relatives who have experienced mc and don't feel I fully have but maybe I will be lucky and it has been less traumatic as it stopped growing? Although I think the sac etc kept growing? I do feel so much less lonely after reading other peoples experiences but just feel like a fraud thinking I was pregnant weeks after it had gone, think that's the bit that annoys me, feel like it would've been easier to miscarry at 5 weeks when it actually stopped but don't suppose thats any easier! Anyway hopefully some closure end of week!

[TheDayOfMyDoctor]

I had a mmc at similar dates to you OP. I spotted for a few days, and then had a heavy bleed and passed clots about 5 days later. This lasted for 2 days. It was painful but manageable. I went back to work about a week later but felt it was too soon and ended up taking another couple of days soon after.

I am very sorry you are going through this, I remember well how devastating it was. If it gives you any comfort, I only realised how common mmc was when it happened to me and was amazed how many women had had one before going on to have a healthy pregnancy.

Take care, and be kind to yourself.

[umiaisha]

Elephant - exactly the same thing happened to me 2 days before christmas :-(

I had my second scan today and despite bleeding pretty much like a normal period since the initial scan the sac/foetus had still not passed. I decided to go for the D&C pill option and I have to take the second dosage tomorrow - what a start to 2014!. Agree that the worse thing is dealing with still feeling pregnant, in fact I felt more pregnant with this one than when I was expecting DD and DS.

My thoughts are with you xxx

[Ruggle]

Elephant, I had a natural mmc at 11+4 back in July. The sac had continued to grow and I had full pregnancy symptoms up until then despite baby not developong past 6 weeks. If your sac has continued to grow then you should expect a lot more than light bleeding. I passed egg-sized clots and bled extremely heavily (a pad every 15 mins) and ended up being admitted to hospital and put on a drip. Physical pain was manageable, but emotional pain less so. After a day I had passed everything apart from two clots which took a week to pass, after which I had light bleeding for a week. I took two weeks off work but could have done with three. I spent my first week back googling reasons for miscarriage, and crying at the drop of a hat.
Having said all that, I am glad I let it happen naturally. It helped with the grieving process in some ways...and it felt as though my body knew what to do.

[elephant76]

Well I'm fairly sure now it happened today. Had much worse cramps and then sat on the toilet for an hour passing clots and dribbling blood. Combo of paracetamol and nurofen and a hot water bottle helped. Then stopped as suddenly as it had started and bleeding a lot less than have been now. So after 9 days of bleeding hopefully the worst is pass. I am waiting now for the hormone crash and associated emotions but at the moment I feel like a weight has been lifted. Glad of all the people kind enough to share experiences here I was as well prepared as I possibly could have been! Xxxxxxxxxx

[umiaisha]

Hi elephant,

I took my second dosage today and after a couple of hours of awful pain (far worse than I had anticipated) I think that it is finally all over for me too.

I feel relieved also. Hopefully we can both put all this behind us and look forward to happy times in the new year. You are not alone xxx

[elephant76]

I am glad for you too it is over. Feel in a better position to move on now. Scan Friday hopefully will show all passed and nothing further needs done. Then just the repairing to be done in its own time. Not a great start to 2014 but it can only get better from here! Hugs to you too xxxx

[umiaisha]

Thanks Elephant, good luck for Friday xxx

[September60b]

Hi elephant, I also miscarried at 11 weeks but scans showed that the baby had stopped developing at around 5/6 weeks. First pregnancy so I really didn't know what was normal, or what to expect. I opted for a natural miscarriage as the second scan I had showed that the sac was very low down in my pelvis.

I found forums like this to be extremely helpful in anticipating what was to come next, but I had to say I think I was lucky with my experience. I actually bled for around 7 weeks which sounds horrendous, but the bleeding was very light most of the time and I didn't have any pain. I don't think I really intended to carry on with a natural miscarriage for that long without some sort of intervention but I was back at work and almost started to forget why I was bleeding which I know probably sounds really strange! The bleeding got heavier in the final 3 days and I passed a couple of clots with a few strong stomach cramps (just like a bad period) and then everything stopped. Had a final scan 2 weeks ago to check that everything had returned to normal which really put my mind at rest. Really keen to start trying again, I think for me it will be the only way to really get over what happened. So sorry to read everyone's stories on here. I never realised how common miscarriages actually were until it happened to me. x

[elephant76]

Well the story since Wednesday, I was wrong thinking the hour of dripping blood and clots was the miscarriage, that night after no bleeding all day I cramped again and had 2 hours bleeding, lots of clots and what I imagine was the main part of the pregnancy sack which got stuck, I managed to dislodge it though and the bleeding stopped. I didn't bleed the next day but overnight I passed a huge clot. I had my scan this morning and as expected had passed the worst of it. I asked about further bleeding and she said possibly would bleed more, like a heavy period for 2 to 3 weeks. Hadnt bled much since passed the clot but was uncomfy again tonight and thought a walk might help. Had to waddle home with blood soaked through my clothes and down to my knees. Undressed in the shower and passed another handful of Clots including a huge one including what looked like more membrane! Slightly afraid to leave the house now! When will it stop!