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14 weeks, baby is not going survive

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FluffyDucky Fri 14-Jun-13 22:18:53

Where to start? Husband and I had an amnio test today after our downs screening came back last week as 1/20. We went to the appointment (originally they thought I was 15 weeks due to scan size) After a few minutes of doing the ultrasound the consultant broke the news that there is something very wrong with the baby.
There is too much fluid around the brain/skull, bowel and ribs and it is pretty much certain it will not survive. There is a heartbeat at the moment.
He took the fluid and we will get the results Tuesday afternoon. It may be Downs, a virus, congenital or possibly just a one off.
I feel pretty numb but otherwise normal. Crying occasionally. We have already decided we will terminate, we can be together and it sort of feels like it is in our control. Sorry if the post seems disjointed, I think I just need to talk about it. It's going to be such a long weekend, trying to do normal bits but it just feels so weird. This is our first baby, I'm really scared that we may not be able to have more or it is something that will keep happening.

nectarini1983 Wed 19-Jun-13 21:28:25

Just read your post Fluffy. You were so kind to me on Friday when you responded to my post.

Im so sorry that you're going through this. Life can be so very cruel.

In readiness for tomorrow, can I assure you of how well I was treated when I had to deliver my 17 week baby in January. The midwives were absolute angels. I never ever thought strangers could be so kind and could care so much when they see so much. And not that its any consolation for what youll endure but it was nothing like a full term labour, it was very controlled and calm and they should be offering you any pain relief you require.

I had my little boy blessed when he was born and have his hand and footprints which are so precious to me.

As I said when we spoke on my thread, dont make any rash decisions: take your time and don't be pressured and you may change your mind 10 times and then change it back again...and that's ok.

Thinking of you tomorrow. X

DearlyDepartedMrsFinch Thu 20-Jun-13 13:49:22

Thinking of you today xx

whiteandyellowiris Thu 20-Jun-13 21:11:42

thinking of you, so sorry for your loss

xigris Thu 20-Jun-13 21:15:58

So sorry Fluffy. What a sad situation. Wishing you and your family all the best, I'll be thinking of you flowers

HumphreyCobbler Thu 20-Jun-13 21:19:52

I am so sorry for your loss.

MrsHelsBels74 Thu 20-Jun-13 21:22:37

So sorry.

GeorgianMumto5 Thu 20-Jun-13 21:23:29

Oh, FluffyDucky, I am so, so sorry.

Nobhead Thu 20-Jun-13 22:23:07

So sorry Fluffy. I delivered my baby girl at 19 weeks in Feb, she died at around 14 weeks. We had the test results and PM results back Monday this week....she had downs too. It is truly heartbreaking. The staff at the hospital I was at were just lovely and caring and a few of them had been through the same thing. Be kind to yourself and do what feels right at the time. Xxx

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