I've had a few HEARTLESS things said to me, makes me feel so down. It's only been aimed at me and not my partner, which I'm glad because I cope better.
Some of you know me. I lost my Riley at 23 weeks, April 2012.
Followed by 2 early losses around 6-7 week in August and December 2012.
When I lost Riley I had to sign a form giving permission to break my waters because I was severely ill and could of died of infection. My Dad, Mum, Stepmum, Brother an ofcourse my partner witnesses this and was there through the birth. A month after losing Riley I found out one of my Dad and Stepmums friend said to them that I'm a Murderer and Killed my baby boy. Neither of them told me this and I had to find this out from my stepbrother. My dad denied knowing who said this.
When I lost my 2nd baby I found out my dad said "It was nothing anyway".
And last night me and my mum was on about my sister who keeps stealing saying how much shes upset mum and caused her heartache. My mums reply to this was "You've caused me the most heartache by lossing Riley". She said it like I asked for it. My mum also said a couple of months ago that she and everyone else in the family feel like their walking on eggshells around me!!!!! I asked others in my family about this and they said they didn't feel that way!!
Anyone else had people call them a murder or had anything else bad said to them? 
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TheNobodies · 28/05/2013 13:41
I am utterly shocked. That's horrendous and so cruel. I had some really hurtful and thoughtless things said to me about our lose but nothing compared to your experience. Everyone one of those people should be ashamed of themselves. My thoughts are with you.
I am so sorry for your lose 
I had 'oh well it wasn't a real baby anyway'
I lost my baby at 13 weeks, had already had my 12 week scan and had seen a perfectly formed little baby.
And I was half dead in a hospital bed after severe infection and blood loss after losing my baby, when she said this to me. She's a good friend I've known for over 12 years, but she's had a child herself (that makes it worse to me somehow) and a small part of me still holds it against her. I didn't say anything at the time because I was so ill and a bit stunned by it. It still stings thinking about it
My mother told me it didn't matter because in her day she wouldn't even have known she was pg (9w and 7w).
But that isn't in the same league as some of you, especially OP
Op, Your mother I cannot believe the cruelty of some people. It's appalling.
When I was losing my baby I overheard one of the women on the ward speculate that I was having an abortion because I kept my curtain shut. I had been put on the gynae ward cos maternity was full thank fuck, wouldn't have coped with babies She wittered on and on, obviously thought the curtain was sound proof. All this because I wouldn't interact with her and looked young for my age, she had assumed I was a teenager. Bitch. Oh, she had an opinion about abortion. F'nn bitch.
My MIL told me it was just a ball of cells that obviously weren't growing properly and my body decided to dispose of them. Like an infection! 
But that's nothing. I am still utterly shocked at wht has been said to you. I am so sorry OP. so very sorry
Oh my word. No, no-one has ever said anything like that to me although mine were all early losses and nothing like the horror you had to endure with Riley 
I would seriously be considering whether I could a maintain a relationship with any family member who said something so heartless. I hope you find a way to get through this.
Toomuch What! I would of complained, how thoughtless. Pretty sure being pregnant beats a flat tum! I'd love to have a big round belly to show off!
Musicmakesmesane When I had my 3 D&C's I had horrible looks, can't believe the nerve of that woman jumping to conclusions 
You all say what you have had said to you is nothing compared to what I have had said to me... They are something! I think some people just don't think before they say and then expect us to get over it
Just a miscarriage? WHAT! Oh dear
I had a week of college in Decemeber because I bled very heavy but baby wouldn't come. So had to have a D&C, I pretty sure the girls on my course had something to say because they've never spoke to me because "they don't know what to say" Can be lonely.
My MIL has some corkers;
"oh dear, and you spent all that money on a private scan"
"next time you get pregnant, dont bother telling me. I can't go through this again"
"there must have been something wrong with it" this is a common one and I've probably said it myself at some point BUT to me that little baby with a heartbeat was perfect and somebody saying there was something wrong with it really hit me in the chest, no matter how true it was.
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