Early miscarriage / mixed diagnoses

[Jadeyjade]

It would be great to see what anyone thinks, or even if anyone has had similar experiences. I best start from the top- I have poly cystic ovarian syndrome- diagnosed since I was 17 ( now 23 ) & I have researched it a lot as doctors seem very passive on the subject, & constantly find that there are a lot of women that get a negative result on a home pregnancy test because of their hormones with POS. I am also on the contraceptive pill dianette which I have been on for far too long - doctor now planning a change- & in the leaflet it says in black & white after long term use it can interfere with blood tests results. So 2 Saturdays ago I had quite bad "period" pain, which was unusual as they weren't due for a week. I put it down to my POS & got on. Monday morning I woke up with a brown, lumpy/clots, discharge, can only describe it like jelly substance. Over the course of 4 days this gradually went to just brown discharge & pain was no more than bad period pain. Doctor did a speculum & asked me lots of questions. Very supportive until my pregnancy test & blood test said negative , apparently I deffo had all the symptoms of an early miscarriage but she couldn't confirm it with a negative test. I contacted a nurse who said it seems that I've had an early miscarriage, less than 6 weeks, & it's common for a test to be negative- silent miscarriage or something. So now I'm left knowing my own body, me & my partner knowing in our hearts with the support of some medical professional we have lost a baby. But the doctor I saw "can't confirm it" so I'm left like, that's it. Any one on here share similar experience? Confused & still in shock from the whole thing.

[Bakingtins]

Hi Jade. I'm afraid when MC happens very early in a pregnancy it is often like your situation where you are left with a lot of unanswered questions. To you it feels devastating but the medics treat it as a very routine situation and appear to be doing nothing. Even in a much later miscarriage where surgery or medical management is required the support for the emotional aspect is often very lacking. This board and others like it are a lifeline, as is the miscarriage association. I think it might also help to plan to do something to acknowledge the loss with your partner. Here whenever you want to 'talk' about it.

[Jadeyjade]

Thank you very much for your reply. It's a comfort to know that there are people who understand or who share similar experience. Everything has gone quite fast in the last week or so, & at the moment I'm still shocked & confused more than anything, although the reality is beginning to sink in :( thankyou again for the support