Miscarriage - keepsakes, jewellery, momentos

[LostGeek]

Hi

I am waiting to miscarry for the second time in 6 months. I also had a missed miscarriage in August that was diagnosed at the booking scan. I miscarried at home naturally 4 days later. This time I had a 'reassurance' scan at 9 weeks and was told same thing was likely happening again and to come back in two weeks. That 2nd scan was on Tuesday and they were able to confirm the baby had died. I was advised against the 'unnecessary' ERPC because I had problems with general anaesthetic at he birth of my son in 2011. So I'm waiting again. This time is harder because I've waited 18 days so far (since first scan) and it's beginning to feel like torture. I feel I can't grieve until it has happened and I'm living in fear of when it will strike.

The reason for my post is that this time I feel very strongly that I want to have a piece of jewellery to mark both my losses. (I wasn't interested in this type of thing after my first loss)It is also something to focus my mind on while I wait. So far I've only found quite cheap jewellery for the purpose of memorialising child loss or miscarriage. I'm not made of money at all but want something that costs a bit more than a few pounds, preferably gold. Does anyone know of any good places to look?

I saw a quote at the early pregnancy unit that I might like to use a bit of for engraving, or have on a piece of paper in a locket.

"And can it be that in a world so full and busy, the loss of one weak creature makes a void in any heart, so wide and deep that nothing but the width and depth of vast eternity can fill it up."

[BlackholesAndRevelations]

I bought a charm for my charm bracelet. Not specifically linked to mc, but every time I wear it I'm comforted that the baby I lost is still with me. Take care x

[Bakingtins]

I had a forget-me-not charm from a company called Scarlett jewellery who do a nice range.
I have a small corner of my garden that I dug over (very therapeutic) and planted with plants which are chosen for remembrance. My plan though I have not yet got round to it was to have small memorial pebbles like these engraved with the dates of the miscarriages to place in the garden.
It does help to mark the losses in whatever way is meaningful to you. Hope you find something nice.

[LostGeek]

Thanks guys - good ideas for me to think about.

[Carolra]

This made me leak tears reading your special quote. I don't know anything about jewellery but wanted to let you know you're in my thoughts and I hope you find something truly special to remember your lost little ones xx

[whiterose2011]

I got 2 charms for my charm bracelet. One had stars on it and the other was a forget me not charm. Both mean a lot to me and when I'm feeling particularly low, I just touch them and get a lot of comfort in a subtle way.

So sorry that you are going through this. Take care xx

[LostGeek]

Thank you everyone. I have sent my wedding and engagement rings away so a matching ring can be made to wear next to them. Am thinking of having it inset with three stones. One for our son and two for our two lost babies.

Carolra - thank you for you kind words.