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What could I send my friend?

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RoomForALittleOne Sun 02-Dec-12 19:14:52

My friend is waiting to go in and give birth to her angel baby (she's approx 20 weeks). I want to send her something and a card. I've only had early miscarriages so I don't know how she must be feeling. I don't want to be insensitive so please can you help me by suggesting an appropriate type of card and gift. I need to be able to post it and we don't have a lot of money at the moment but she is a special friend so I want her to feel loved. Actually, what I really want is for this to not be happening to her. Life is so unfair sad

Rosduk Mon 03-Dec-12 08:31:42

A week ago I gave birth to my angel baby at 27 weeks. Most gave us a nice card and flowers although to be honest having just a card and a nice message is enough. IMO any other presents will just be a reminder so if you def want to buy something flowers or a candle are perfect.
Thinking of your friend. It'll be a tough few months sad

RoomForALittleOne Mon 03-Dec-12 09:07:05

I was thinking of decorating a candle for her and packaging it very carefully to post. I just can't believe this is happening sad

MrsJohnDeere Mon 03-Dec-12 11:21:14

The card with some kind words would be the loveliest thing, IMHO. Flowers are a nice thought, to show you're are thinking of them, but those and any other 'things' are just a reminder of everything, something I wouldn't want to look at (had MMC 6 weeks ago).

The best thing is phoning for a chat at regular intervals, particularly after the initial week or so when people start to think you're ok because in the outside you seem to be coping.

RoomForALittleOne Mon 03-Dec-12 15:50:13

Thanks for taking the time to answer me. I'm sorry for both of your losses. Thank-you for helping me try to be sensitive toward my precious friend.

jkb Mon 03-Dec-12 18:05:51


I have very recently lost my angel at 19 weeks ( i gave birth on 8th Nov) ....and so totally know what did & didnt work for me in the relms of support.
I must say that the flowers for me were lovely...but very sad... those flowers should have been for when i was home with my lovely baby- they made me feel sad.
I think a card is lovely & i would say to text your friend...every day if you can- it will mean alot( i have a friend who does this to me & it means the world).
I also think to get her a little something would not upset her atal? it certainly would not have upset me?? quite the opposite
& actually she may want to keep what you send her in a memory box for her baby (i have kept everything....its all you have...and most people will WANT to remember their baby and never forget them)
If you go onto ebay & type BABY LOSS - it will bring up lots of things... lovely little bracelets- which they can put babies name on (if you know) these cost around £5 & personally... if a friend done that for me I would be so touched & thrilled.

That child she is going to have to give birth to is her precious baby...a baby she will never will always be her child & to mark that in some way will mean alot to her.

She is very lucky to have a friend like you

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