Miscarried at 4+1 weeks

[npg1]

Hi everyone.

I had a miscarriage wednesday/ thursday. Had only found out the week before I was pregnant, was so happy as have PCOS, do have 2 children but never thought we would have another without help.

However started bleeding tuesday and it got worse with only a few clots. Did a test today and it was negative.

Just really struggling at the moment, one minute im ok and the next something has set me off and im down in the dumps. Feel so awful, cant imagine trying again incase it happens or being close to my partner. Blame myself and my stupid body.

We get married on 22nd septmeber and trying to busy myself but dont have the motivation

x

[Geekster]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss npg1 what you are feeling is completely normal. A miscarriage is a bereavement like any other. You don't 'just get' over it in a couple of days it takes time, everyone is different.

Don't blame yourself it's NOT Your fault. There was nothing you did or didn't do to cause this.

It feels like you will never be happy again or be able to even consider the thought of even trying again, but it does get easier you won't feel as awful as this forever. Just take it day by day.

I had six miscarriages before I had dd in march, so it does get better or no one would be able to keep trying.

Sending you a big guilt free hug x

[MurderOfProse]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Even when it's early, you still have hopes and dreams, and you're mourning the loss of those.

I had an early loss last month at around the same gestation. What struck me was how hard the hormones were on me - I'm normally quite laid back but I felt so angry, bitter and depressed and behaved completely out of character. Even three weeks later I'm still unsettled about it. I've had two other first trimester losses, a lot later on, needed a D&C etc, and to my surprise I was just as cut up about this one as I was about those.

Please don't blame yourself, or your body, although I know it is hard not to and most of us do. You just ended up on the wrong side of statistics, it can happen to anyone.

[lookingfoxy]

Hi, this happened to me as well a few weeks ago, only around 4 weeks and had only known for a week, but you start to plan things in your head, at least I did, then its all gone.
Don't know what else to say but to offer my sympathies to you.

[Dianek]

Hello npg1,
it sounds strange but that is exactly what happened to me. I tested positive on Friday (5 days late at that stage), then started bleeding on Sunday/Monday.
Ended up taking a test at A&E last night which was negative! Now I'm a bit confused if (1) I was ever preg in the first place, (2) the 1st test was wrong, (3) the 2nd test was wrong.
Either way, I guess that I must be having a miscarriage or a late period. Emotions are all over the place plus the embarrassment factor of getting a negative test at A&E last night! And I wasted A&E's time....

[messtins]

DianeK I'm sorry for your loss. You didn't waste anybody's time. Unfortunately a lot of pregnancies are lost early on because there is something wrong with the babies genetic code or it doesn't implant properly. In the old days it would just have been put down to a late period, now we can test early it causes a lot of heartache. I would think you were pregnant and both tests were correct, something went wrong early in the baby's development that meant the pregnancy couldn't continue. The HCG levels (what the preg test looks for) drop beyond a certain point and your body starts the miscarriage process. If that happens early on then the levels were never that high and will drop back to a 'negative' test point fairly quickly.
I hope you are coping ok now. Jen xx

[xoJane]

Hi there, really sorry to hear about your experiences. We're not generally in the habit of spamming forums with out links, but I wanted to share a post from one of our writers about her own miscarriage... xo
www.xojane.co.uk/it-happened-to-me/it-happened-me-right-now-i-m-miscarrying-baby