Can anyone help me please? I miscarried on Friday

[neverontime]

I lost my baby on friday. I feel so alone.
I already have 2 amazing DCs and i love them to bits, but i still feel like i lost a part of me along with my baby.

[HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey]

I am so sorry never how far along were you?

[Wolfiefan]

It wouldn't matter if you had a house full of children because you still lost your baby. I'm so sorry to hear this. Be gentle on yourself. Take time and seek support if you need it. I've had 2 (early mcs). It is wretched.

[neverontime]

I dont know. about 6 weeks.

[neverontime]

Thank you

[tryingtonotfeckup]

I had a mc about 3 years ago, I still wonder what if... , its a natural feeling. Look after yourself and give yourself some time.

[neverontime]

I just wish i could stop crying.

[neverontime]

Will i ever feel normal again?

[HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey]

Wolfie i right, it doesn't matter how many dcs you have, you lost your baby.

I had one last year at about 9 weeks.

Take it easy, rest and look after yourself.

[HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey]

In my experience you will, i certainly do.

I do still wonder what if, my best friend was pregnant at the time and sometimes when i look at her baby i feel sad and wonder.

It is all still so fresh and raw, give yourself some time.

[neverontime]

Thank you Hokey. I hope you're right.

[Wolfiefan]

Both my mcs were about this stage. After each I felt like the bottom had dropped out my world. I felt hollow and cried until I thought I'd run out of tears. It's grief. It sucks. You can come out the other side. I still feel sad when I think of what happened but I've come to terms with it.
Cry if you need to. We are here if you need us. You are not alone sweetie.

[PicaK]

Yes you will recover. Slowly and with ups and downs along the way. And you'll think you are doing well and something will trigger a memory and the ground beneath your feet will disappear for a while. But yes the pain will fade.

Be kind to yourself. Find friends who've been through the same thing cos they'll understand. Rage and grieve.

[ParaOlympicpark]

Am very sorry to hear your sad news. Sending you a hug.

[flowers123]

So sorry for your loss ending you a hug x

[pjd]

It's such a cliche I know, but time is an amazing healer. I have never felt as sad as the day I knew for certain my bleeding was a miscarriage. I have never cried in the way I cried that day. But here I am a year and a half later feeling totally normal again. I can remember the pain, but it doesn't hurt any more. I had to tell myself that there was a reason for that mc. DS2 wouldn't exist now if it hadn't happened and he is without question the best thing in my life now (along with DS1!) Give yourself some time and take comfort in your lovely DCs.

[Kaloobear]

It's a devastating, devastating thing to happen. I'm so sorry for your loss OP. You will feel better, but you won't forget your baby. I know MN isn't the place for hugs, but do have one, and take care of yourself.

[MarathonMama]

Give yourself time to mourn, it's a mourning process just like when someone you love has died. It takes time to feel better and you will. Thinking of you x

[neverontime]

Thank you everyone for your kind words.

I thought i was feeling better, until i took my 2 DCs to the hairdresser and the only other 2 people there were a new mum and her baby and a very pregnant woman. I had to fight the urge to run out crying.
I dont want to feel so resentful towards women who have babies or are pregnant, but i cant seem to help it. I feel like a horrid person.

[HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey]

You're not a horrid person lovely.

You're a mum who lost her baby just a week ago.

Don't be hard on yourself, it's not at all surprising you were upset.

Give it time x

[IawnCont]

How are you neverontime ?
I'm in a very similar situation. Have 2DCs, had early MC last Sunday. Had to have a night in hospital as my blood pressure was very low and I was dizzy. I thought I was fine after coming out from hospital- I thought I'd done all my crying there, so I didn't have to do it in front of my children- But I've lost grip on myself a bit today. My mind is whirring. I keep thinking "don't be silly, it was so very early, there was nothing that could be done" and then I think but what if the baby would have been like his brothers? Isn't that worth mourning?

I think it's going to be a process. How many people have you told? I've told my father, sister and a few mates. I kind of want them to know because I want it known that it existed IYKWIM. I've also started to write everything that happened, because whatever the embryo could have been, it deserved to have its story noted.

Thinking of you lots. x

[neverontime]

Hi IawnCont.
I'm ok, holding up.
So sorry to hear you're going throught this too. I told loads of people i was expecting, so had to tell them all i'd lost my baby too, that was awful.
I totally understand what you're going through and think writing it all down is a great idea. I might even use that one myself

I split up with my BF tonight, so i feel cheated out of my grief really, I should be spending my time grieving for my baby, not crying over him. I feel like i've pretty much lost everything, thank god for my 2 beautiful DCs. And i dont understand why he couldnt have waited to tell me we were over until i was a bit stronger, emotionally.

[Cynner]

To both Neverontime and IawnCont...I am so sad for you both. I wish I had more comforting words. You both are in my thoughts.xx

[IawnCont]

Oh no neverontime. That is awful about splitting with your bf. How are you coping? It must be so difficult. I find the only way I can get on with things is to think of my DC- I have to be strong for them, I'm so lucky they're here.
It feels very odd, some people not knowing. Today I was looking at new cars with a friend, and he said "hey! You could have more children if you bought that one- It's huge!" I just stood there with a frozen smile, just wondering if I should say something. I wasn't upset, just felt that I was being secretive.