After some bleeding on Sunday and into Monday I went for an early scan which confirmed that the baby stopped growing at 8+3, which was 3 weeks earlier, should have been 11+3 that day. Awful, awful - I'd waited and waited to contact the doc and midwife and it turns out that the very day I saw the doc and phoned the mw was when the baby died. I was exhausted for the rest of that week and spent most of it arguing with DP, when all the time our poor baby was already lost.
Anyway after the scan I opted to come home, bleeding got heavier on Tuesday afternoon for a few hours and has been coming and going ever since but only 1 small clot, nothing has come away that looks like the sac. I've read the practicalities of mc thread, which is so helpful - but the info we got from the hospital just says "it is likely you will have some vaginal bleeding during the first 2 weeks", that bleeding will last 2 - 3 weeks, then it should stop and I should feel much better. That's it - nothing at all about expecting to see clots or the sac, or a big gush.
So I'm just confused about what to do and expect - if what's happening now is it, I could carry on as normal, just taking it easy, but at the moment I'm staying mostly at home, wearing 2 pads and sitting on a towel all the time, DP working from home and taking this afternoon and tomorrow off to look after DD in case I can't and so he can take her out instead of keeping her cooped up. But I don't think I can keep this up for another 10 days, the waiting is killing me already. I'm self employed and mostly work from home except on Mondays when I go into an office 40 miles away - this Mon I fibbed and said DD was ill, but if I don't go next week I'll have to come clean or look really dodgy so I'm worrying about that already too. I'm wondering if instead of resting I should go for a brisk walk to get things moving, like they tell you to for labour.
I'm sorry, this is just a rant really, I want someone to tell me what's happening and what to do but no-one can. As if having an mc wasn't bad enough, add in all this waiting and it's really torture.
Hugs and thoughts to those of you going through the same at the moment, I'm so sorry we're all here.
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Day 4 of waiting to mc...
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heidipi · 26/04/2012 09:32
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