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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Just a hand hold

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Birthhippy9 · 26/03/2012 08:35

We were doing natural family planning and now I'm miscarrying at 6 weeks. It started yesterday properly, the day before there were signs. I just need someone to hold my hand. DH had to leave for work, it's not possible for him to stay at home. Feeling awful. I know it's early. I know I have two already and that I'm fortunate. After the initial "Oh my God I'm going to be tired" I was really happy that a new person was coming. I've got to get the car to the garage and sit there for about two hours with the two children (DC1 nearly 3years and DC2 11 months) whilst it gets fixed up for the MOT at lunchtime. My DH is choosing to see it as a late period, it's easier for him to stomach going to work that way. It is different for me though. I knew my temperature changed, and then there was the positive test. As soon as I got over the initial "Oh my goodness this is really happening now" I had started making plans and looking forward to my family being complete. The flow yesterday was surprising and I needed to change my pad very regularly but today it seems less so and more just heavy period. I'm left feeling very lost and I look as white as a sheet. I dont want to deal with today.

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wrigle · 26/03/2012 11:35

Hi MTA, of course you were looking forward to it, once you get that positive test you can't help but take a quick in breath and wonder about the future. Poor you, there are more active threads where you can link up with other's who have miscarried. I don't understand the system enough to tell you how to find them, I hope you have already if you're at home today.

Hugs.

lola4lee · 26/03/2012 12:58

Hi May

So sorry for your loss.
Our partners don't get as attached as quickly as we do, especially if wasn't planned, but of course you are heartbroken.
thinking of you xx

Imnotaslimjim · 26/03/2012 13:04

Of course you are feeling lost. It may have been "early" but to you, it was a future. You've gone through the shock and into acceptance, and even made plans.

Grieve for this as you would any loss. If you want to talk, talk. There is always someone around on here that is willing to listen. Also, remember that up to 1 in 3 pg's end before 12 weeks, and it is nothing you have done.

Today sounds like its going to be pretty tough, but you WILL get through it. Once DC are in bed tonight, just relax, have a soak and Wine and you will feel a little more human

Take care

Birthhippy9 · 26/03/2012 19:51

Thanks for responding. I think I needed just someone to care and felt wobberly because it was the first day back to work for DH and having to deal with it entirely on my own. Now that the day is nearly over I'm trying ot feel less upset internally although I've kept my confidence whilst going about try to get the car through and look after the children today.

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wrigle · 27/03/2012 15:48

We've all been there, it's understandable. And you've been amazing to get on with your day like that.

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