Hi there,
I haven't posted before but have been a mn reader for a while.
This is my first pregnancy and I am currently 22+4. Yesterday, my dh and I received the awful news that our baby has not developed properly and the doctors suspect that it has a chromosomal abnormality. They think it could be Edward's syndrome or Patau's syndrome. I don't really know much about this and am too scared to search dr google at the moment. We were told that if our baby has one of these, they are unlikely to live beyond a few hours after the birth. The best case scenario is a chromosomal abnormality like Downs but with several other severe disabilities - the brain, for example, is 5 weeks behind in its development.
So this leaves us facing up to the heartbreaking task of ending our much wanted pregnancy.
I am so scared about what is going to happen. I've never given birth before and this is the scenario I used to have nightmares about. If anyone who has gone through this has any words of advice or support, they would be much appreciated.
We have told our family and work colleagues. We need to tell our friends and I'm just dreading this, especially as we have several close friends who are also pregnant.
I just can't believe this has happened. We had a scan at 20 weeks which showed everything ok but they couldn't get a head measurement. The sonographer said this was because of the position of the baby so they needed to reschedule. In retrospect, it was clearly because things weren't quite right.
After worrying about early miscarriage, I had just started to really believe that we were going to have a baby and had just handed in my maternity leave form.
My dh is a rock and I am so grateful to have him but I just can't bear the thought of what is to come. I know I have to be strong and get through it one day at a time but it's so hard, especially when I feel my baby moving and my bump getting bigger.
I would be so grateful if anyone else can talk about their experiences. I don't know if there is a support thread for women going through this.
Thank you for reading.
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ladystardust123 · 13/01/2012 10:57
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