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I lost my baby girl

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Breevandercamp1750 Mon 19-Sep-11 11:22:25

I gave birth at 9.51am yesterday to my precious baby girl. I already had her name picked out, Tilly Rose. I feel so empty and lost.

LoveInAColdClimate Mon 19-Sep-11 11:24:09

I am so sorry for your loss.

ColdSancerre Mon 19-Sep-11 11:24:14

Oh Bree I'm so very sorry sad

barbie1 Mon 19-Sep-11 11:24:20

bree I'm very sorry to hear your news sad gorgeous names you gave her x

tkband3 Mon 19-Sep-11 11:27:32

I am so so sorry sad

LizaTarbucksNonSmokingAuntie Mon 19-Sep-11 11:28:06

Bree I am so sorry for your loss.

Tilly Rose is a beautiful name for your daughter.

JosephineB Mon 19-Sep-11 11:35:00

I am so so sorry.

Breevandercamp1750 Mon 19-Sep-11 11:36:35

I feel so numb. Everythings going wrong and I feel like I'm sinking.

minmooch Mon 19-Sep-11 11:41:22

Oh Bree I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter Tilly Rose. What a beautiful name you have given her.

I lost my daughters, Katie and Anna, nearly three years ago at 21+ weeks due to IUGR and suspeceted TTTS. It is a very lonely road grief and I would not have got through these years without the love and support of my friends that I made on the SANDS (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death society) forum. If you can face it do join there where you will be surrounded by other parents who are in the same situation.

It is extremely early days for you and I am sure that you are in complete shock. I do so hope that you have got some wonderful support at home. If you would like to tell us about your pregnancy and your daughter then I would love to hear it. I wanted to talk about my daughters all the time and I needed to find someone who would listen.

Please be very gentle on yourself.




4madboys Mon 19-Sep-11 11:52:12

oh no bree sad so so sorry to hear this sad no words at all, just sending my love xxx

Breevandercamp1750 Mon 19-Sep-11 11:54:39

Support at home is non existent. I found out H was having an affair (after he asked me for a termination at 18 weeks) and threw him out.

I have a history of pre terms so didn't expect Tilly to wait too long to greet me. I just didn't expect it this soon (22+)

I just want to hold her, smell her, rub my nose on her perfect little head. I want to hear her cry.

chocolateyclur Mon 19-Sep-11 12:01:00

I am so sorry xx

LizaTarbucksNonSmokingAuntie Mon 19-Sep-11 12:01:39

Oh lovely I'm so sorry, you have been let down haven't you.

Do you want to chat about Tilly or do you just want quiet support?

ColdSancerre Mon 19-Sep-11 12:02:36

Are your parents/ILs with you?

carciofi Mon 19-Sep-11 12:03:42

I am so sorry about your little girl, my heart goes out to you.

Breevandercamp1750 Mon 19-Sep-11 12:04:19

I desperately want to talk about her but it feels like there's a football in my throat. It feels like I can't move for fear that I might loose it .

Breevandercamp1750 Mon 19-Sep-11 12:06:21

My MIL has been with me but has gone to relieve FIL of the other DCs. My parents are on their way back from France for me. MIL has been a tower of strength but I need my mum .

ColdSancerre Mon 19-Sep-11 12:07:03

Can you type about her and tell us, even if you can't talk about her out loud? Would that help?

aftereight Mon 19-Sep-11 12:11:54

I am so very sorry to hear that Tilly Rose came so soon. Please lean on your family, I cannot imagine how difficult this is for you, especially with what has happened recently with your H x

Squiglettsmummy2bx Mon 19-Sep-11 12:13:50

So very sorry for your loss. Tilly is a beautiful name smile
Sending you healing hugs xxx

Breevandercamp1750 Mon 19-Sep-11 12:21:45

I only had a scan a few days ago to check on her as I wasn't feeling quite right. I just don't understand. She is perfect, just tiny. She weighed 1lb 6oz and looks just like my others. She was taken to scbu but there was no heart beat so nothing they could do. What did I do to her?

4madboys Mon 19-Sep-11 12:42:53

you didnt do anything bree, these horrible things happen for no rhyme or reason, please dont blame yourself.

do you have photos etc. i hope your mum gets to you soon xx

LizaTarbucksNonSmokingAuntie Mon 19-Sep-11 12:52:38

Oh lovely, it wasn't anything you did, you know that deep down. I hope your Mum gets there very soon.

Why did you choose Tilly as her name?

Breevandercamp1750 Mon 19-Sep-11 12:57:43

I have photos, not nearly enough though. I hope she's warm enough, it's so cold here today.

ViolaTricolor Mon 19-Sep-11 12:58:42

That is so sad, I'm really sorry. What a beautiful name you gave her. It's lovely that she looked like your others.

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