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I had two miscarriages. Both babies were due in September. I just feel so sad and its silly.

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oranges Sat 10-Sep-11 23:55:14

I have a lovely ds and dd. I don't want any more children. But before each of my successful pregnancies, I had a miscarriage. Both the babies I lost would have been autumn children. Both the ones I had were spring babies. ANd I feel so melancholy each September and its totally pointless. But I cant explain to anyone in rl why I keep crying.

Arcadie Sun 11-Sep-11 01:23:22

It's absolutely not silly. You're mourning the children's births and birthdays that you never got to have. So sorry and hope you can find someone in RL to sit and cry with pref with wine

kat2504 Sun 11-Sep-11 10:17:08

It's totally not silly. Even though time passes and you have two lovely children, you don't forget the ones you lost. Why not do something nice this september as a sort of remembrance. Some people like planting trees or releasing balloons or something like that, others don't really go for that at all. It might give you a positive way to acknowledge and voice your feelings. Obviously crying and melancholy totally allowed and understandable though. It is very hard, and other people, even family, forget these things quickly, but we never do.

oranges Sun 11-Sep-11 18:17:05

Thank you. The idea of doing something in remembrance every SEptember is a good one. Each year, the month rolls around and I just feel blue and it takes me a while to realise why. Accepting it and marking the loss somehow may be a good idea. I like the idea of planting something.

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