4 weeks preg but no symptoms after a missed m/c in the spring...

[SukieQ]

Just found out pregnant again, and instead of being happy, totally filled with anticipating dread because I feel like I'm going to miscarry again. Had a missed m/c only picked up at 12 week scan in April. Had an ERPC. Baby had measured about 9 weeks (and had viable scans at 7 weeks with heartbeat tho it was a bit small for dates. They rejigged my dates but I knew it was accurate because I chart). Took a few months to rest. Tried in July, nothing. Tried in August, now 4+2 or thereabouts. Had one other pregnancy, my daughter, she's 21 months now. Her pregnancy was really easy and only symptom was really sore boobs at the start, and some headaches and food aversion. Nothing else. Second one that miscarried had no symptoms at all. Now this one has no symptoms at all, so I feel like I'm doomed to tread the same fate as the miscarriage. I know they say every preg different and all that but I wish I'd just puke or something to show my hormones are working. Did you get sore boobs with your pregnancy? Am I obsessing about the details? I'll believe it when I get to a second trimester I guess. I can't even face the idea of a scan after what happened last time, I'll go into some sort of post-traumatic breakdown....oh god.... Any advice? Help?!?!?!?! :(

[escapeartist]

Sukie I am no expert, only having had failed pregnancies, but each one has been very different. My last pregnancy, which ended a couple of weeks ago, I only got symptoms after the 5th week (I have kept a diary, so it goes: 5+1 food aversions, 5+4 started feeling sick, 6+1 started being sick) but had no boob soreness, despite the fact that my hcg and progesterone levels were spot on, if not a bit high for dates. BTW I lost the pg because of a clotting disorder, not hormonal deficiency... yet I had few symptoms until week 6.

Relax, as much as you can, and do speak to a medical professional if it all gets too much.,

I am sure someone will come along who has had several successful pregnancies to reassure you. Best of luck with it all and hope in 8 months you have your little one wriggling in your arms!

[SukieQ]

hey thanks for the quick reply escapeartist. that's really helpful... uh uh, do i sound so nuts that I need a shrink already?! kidding. actually i've already booked in to see my acupuncturist which is pretty much the same thing, so hopefully she can send some good vibes and healthy blood down there. oh crap, just will see what happens i guess. part of me is like 'maybe it's too early to feel symptoms, it'll be ok' and the other part is like 'damn, now it's going to be at least another 3-4 months before we can try again since this one is doomed too.' is that effed up? oh well, can't help it if it is.

[tumblebug]

Hi, not an expert at all, but like you had 2 pregnancies. The first had no symptoms at all until 5 or 6 weeks - ended with DS. This time had nausea, sore boobs etc from 3.5 weeks, but tailed off after about 6 weeks. MC 11 weeks but baby stopped growing at 5. so I wouldn't read too much into it, like you say every pregnancy is different. I'm sure I'll be the same next time, but will see early symptoms as a bad sign!

Good luck, hope all goes well.

[mrswattnot]

Hi, Ive posted before but have namechanged.

I had a mmc in Jan at 12 weeks, baby had stopped growing at approx 7 weeks. I'd had awful morning sickness up until 8 weeks then it suddenly stopped, I mentioned this at my booking in appt but, as I still had sore boobs, didn't feel very well etc I was told there was nothing to worry about.

I am now approx 6 weeks pregnant. I had spotting for over a week and then a heavy bleed so my Dr booked me in for an early scan last week. The sonogropher said there were possibly 2 sacs, 1 much smaller than the other but both empty. I think at the scan I would have been 5 weeks but they are dating me at 6 weeks so it is possible it was too early to see anything
(I'm hoping, the staff in the EPU didn't seem very hopeful).

I now have very sore boobs, headaches and feel sickly so keep hoping things might be ok but seeing as I had symptoms last time and it didn't go ok I'm expecting the worst and really just want it all over with so we can try again.

I have a 4 year old dd who I had a completely normal pregnancy with and had no symptoms at all till over 8 weeks. Last time I felt ill up until the mmc at 12 weeks so don't really think you can go off symptoms.

[SukieQ]

oh man, it sounds like you've been through the mill. I hope it works out ok for you. i guess you're right, and symptoms can be so misleading either way. i'm trying to just carry on and see what happens. but i can't shake the feeling of wariness. let me know how you get on. i know what you mean. if this one doesn't work (still have no symptoms) i just want to get on with it so i can try again. try to rest and be kind to yourself mrswattnot :) sorry it took me so long to reply. saw your comment earlier today and been thinking of it.

[BeaWheesht]

I had next to no symptoms with dd until 9 weeks or so depsite hyperemesis from 7wks with ds.

[kat2504]

I've been in the same boat. I've spent weeks driving myself crazy over lack of symptoms. I didn't have any real symptoms with the miscarriages, and I haven't got many now either - no nausea, no food aversions, boobs not especially sore.
At 9 weeks I'm not out of the woods yet, but scans show the baby is doing just fine so far. I had convinced myself it was over when I didn't get symptoms by 7 weeks.

Lots of symptoms does not mean the pregnancy will succeed, no symptoms does not mean it will fail. Even if you had loads of symptoms you would find some other reason to be really really anxious.

Try to arrange yourself an early scan at 8-9 weeks and if you can, try not to panic in the meantime. (easier said than done I know)

Good luck, hope it is a sticky one.

[mrswattnot]

Hi Sukie, hope everythings going ok with you and try not to worry about the lack of symptoms. I had symptoms very early with my last pregnancy and that ened up as a missed miscarriage whereas had none early on with my daughter. I think if you had symptoms which then suddenly stopped would be more cause for concern.

I'm now feeling even more sickly, constantly needing the toilet and have had terrible headaches but not getting my hopes up after what happened last time. Just wish it was Tuesday so I could have the second scan and hopefully know if it's ok or not.

I know you said you don't want an early scan but would having one before your 12 week scan not make you feel better? At least you would know that hopefully baby is ok and if not then would you rather not know before finding out at your 12 week scan? I found out last time I'd miscarried a week before my 12 weeks scan was due when I would have been 13 weeks. I had some slight spotting so was referred to the epu. I would have found it even more upsetting to have found out at my 12 week scan.

[SukieQ]

Hey thanks for all the comments. I'm going stop googling "when did your boobs get sore pregnancy" and just go with it the best I can. I think this comment sums up what I'll try to tell myself:
Lots of symptoms does not mean the pregnancy will succeed, no symptoms does not mean it will fail.
I had a bleed last time at 7 weeks, and it was viable, they rescanned at 9 weeks, still viable, and then when I turned up for my 12 week scan the baby had died, but there were no symptoms anything was wrong, and they hadn't turned the screen away so I saw and realised before they said anything. It's put me off scans in a big way, I just can't trust it, and I'm totally traumatised by the last one. I'll just see how we go. No bleeding or anything yet, but no symptoms either (other than wanting to eat nothing but ham sandwiches and getting hot and out of breath? go figure.). Frankly, if it's still here in 8 weeks time I may forgo that scan entirely. But I'm getting ahead of myself. go with the flow go with the flow go with the flow... :)

[kat2504]

Oh you poor thing that must have been very traumatic after having two good scans beforehand. How awful :(
Lets hope this time is the lucky one for you. All fingers and toes crossed for the next 2 months.

[mrswattnot]

I know what you mean about the scans, even if my scan next week is ok I'll still worry until the 12 week scan then probably worry again until 20 weeks. I think once you've had a miscarriage you do just worry. Hope everything goes ok.

[SukieQ]

yeah, totally. i think pregnancy is a bit nerve wracking at best of times, but once you've miscarried it really takes away that innocent pleasure i had in it the first time round. fingers crossed your scan goes OK on tuesday and the ones to follow.

[mrswattnot]

Just thought I'd update. I had a scan today and there was a baby with a heartbeat and everything looks normal. Dated at 6+2 so very early but hoping this time everything goes ok

[SukieQ]

wow that's great news. fingers crossed for you. i logged on to check if you had updated, I am glad you did. I'm 5+1 but still no symptoms but also no bleeding, so I'm a bag of nerves until something definite is decided one way or the other...

[shandybass]

Congrats meswatnot.
Hi sukie I feel the same as you, I'm 6 wks pg but scared to death after having had 2mmcs and one natural mc although I have had two lovely dcs.
I had loads of symptoms last time although they did noticeably tail off at 6-7 wks when I later found out the pg had ended. I found it more traumatic finding out at the scan visit than when I had my natural mc and to bf honest I'm afraid because of this to go for a scan. I think I'm blinding on to the fact that today I am pg, once I've had the scan I may not be. But as whatnot says even if the scan at8/9 weeks is ok, doesn't mean to say it will be at 12 weeks, 20 etc.

[mrswattnot]

I feel relieved that there was actually a baby with a heartbeat but still worried that something will go wrong again. I prefer to know whether it's good or bad so will probably book a private scan for just over 9 wks. Hope everything goes ok for everyone else.

[ExpensivePants]

I've had 3 pregnancies (1 dd, 1 mmc at 11 weeks and 1 still in residence!). With the mmc I never got any symptoms at all. With the other two nothing kicked in till 6-7 weeks. You're still very early, it's very normal not to have any symptoms at all yet. But, I totally understand why you're worried. You're right about the lost innocence once you've had a mc.

Fingers crossed for a good outcome for you x