now would of been 14weeks, scan said baby stopped growing at 8 weeks, first told me to get re-scanned in two weeks then think of other 'ways' to deal with the situation.. As the 'thing' (just cant say it, as still unsure how im feeling/coping) has been there a while i phoned and demanded a d&c, now booked for wednesday. I just dont know how i feel about everything.. guess just shocked i never noticed and worried incase i start bleeding and encounter problems. I just keep thinking about it, but wondering why nothing has happened before now and how stupid i am for not noticing when i have children already.
You're not stupid. I was told the same thing at 11 weeks, my baby died at 6 weeks. It's awful to be going along thinking everything is OK and then find out that it isn't. All mcs are cruel but this is the cruelest.
I had an ERPC and found that was the easiest way of coping. It's usually a day procedure although I had an overnight stay due to high bmi. It was such a relief to have the physical side over with, I couldn't have coped with waiting to see what happened next.
I wasn't offered the second scan as there was such a discrepancy between the dates, not sure why it seems common practice in some places but not others.
Take it one day at a time, do whatever you need to do to get through. But you're definitely not stupid x