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MC at 10 wks but still feel soooo pregnant and soooo sad :(

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womanwholivedinashoe Tue 14-Jun-11 19:31:12

Had a scan today at epau and saw baby sac but no baby sad devastated sad. Had posted on pregnancy following a whole weekend of bleeding but feel bad venting on that thread when I want them to enjoy their pregnancies without worrying too much.
Scan suggested mc but can confirm as sac was under 20mm, don't understand what that means and was crying too much to ask questions. Due back in next week, longest week ever sad although have resigned myself to the fact that I have had a mc.
But its much harder than I thought and my heart goes out to women who suffer mc's more than once.
I have a beautiful 7 month old and I am very grateful everyday for him smile but it still hurts that I have lost this child and DH as much as I love him seems to be quite normal about it, although that could well be him being brave.
Hardest thing is still feeling pregnant, still holding my stomach that had expanded, still sore breasts and craving sugary cups of tea when do these feelings stop???

Kitesurfgirl Tue 14-Jun-11 19:48:27

so sorry for your loss x hugs I had a mmc at 16 weeks's been 2 weeks now. I found seeing the baby on the screen incredibly hard, knowing there was no heartbeat. sad It is the hardest thing in the world to go through, ppl on here will help, look after your 7month old and your DH and hug both of them tightly. Still feeling pregnant is awful sad I still have my bump and my boobs still hurt...ironically the fact that the bleeding has stopped since the ERPC actually made me feel worse final Keep strong, stay with ppl who love you, try not to listen to well meaning friends who say the wrong thing. xxx

LIG1979 Tue 14-Jun-11 19:59:52

I am so sorry your loss. It is such a difficult time but it does get better but you won't ever forget - my mil said it brought it all back to her as she had 3 mcs before my dh and even 30 years on it was still difficult for both my mil and fil. Feel free to vent your hurt, your anger and all the different feelings that you go through over the next few days, months and years. People here have really helped me through the bad times and made me laugh as well.

I am sure you dh does care but is being brave - I caught my dh crying once in the few days after the mc and then a week or so later he was sent home from work after getting upset seeing someone else's 12 week scan but I didn't realise till later because he didn't want me to worry.

I hope the next few days and weeks go as well as can be expected - sending you a big hug x

Littlepic Tue 14-Jun-11 20:30:59

Hi, I wasn't sure if you would check back on your pregnancy thread so thought I would post here also. I'm so sorry about your news. I've been thinking about you all day keeping my fingers crossed.

I hardly know what to say except that I am thinking of you and sending to lots of hugs and support. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

ShimmeryPixie Tue 14-Jun-11 20:55:35

I'm so sorry womanwholivedinashoe. I'm also sure your DH cares - he'll be worried about you though. Mine is also being 'strong'.

On timing - I had medical management almost two weeks ago, and my symptoms have now gone.

Browncoats Wed 15-Jun-11 14:47:05

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm going through similar at the moment and I have to wait until Monday to have an ERPC and I still feel pregnant too. I'm still having the same cravings so I know how difficult that is.

I also think your DH is being strong for you. I'm trying to concentrate on my lovely DS to get through this.

womanwholivedinashoe Wed 15-Jun-11 15:40:20

Thank you all soooo much. I've been surprised by the amount of friends that have come forward to say they also had mcs. Unfortunately it seems to happen much more than we realize and for often no reasons whatsoever. I burst into tears at the slightest thing but I guess that's normal. My DD had a music channel on and the singer was called Alexandra Stan our chosen boy or girls name, sheer coincidental but rendered me to tears yet again. Seeing a heavily pregnant woman when I left the clinic yesterday outside of the hospital smoking aaargh, in fact then another pregnant woman walked past me after that and I just cried all the way home sad . Today I've started cramping so I guess its the last stage for me. PPL have been wonderful and i'm receiving so much love but really I just want to be on my own but I haven't said that to anyone.
Littlepic sending you much love and ladies who are going through the same thing or who have suffered previously my love goes out to you and sending lots of hugs xx

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