Hi. I don't normally post but have found plenty of support and reassurance in the message boards and wanted to share my recent experience, in case it helps anyone in the same boat.
Unfortunately I suffered a missed miscarriage this week. I had a little bleeding on Monday at 10 weeks pg, managed to get a private scan that same day which I really thought would tell me it was all ok - but unfortunately the baby had died a couple of weeks ago. Very hard to understand, especially as I had a scan at 6.5 weeks and heard a lovely strong heartbeat.
I saw my Gp yesterday who advised me to have a d&c as I still wasn't really bleeding spontaneously and my temperature was up so he was concerned about infection. Somehow we managed to get a slot yesterday lunchtime ( luckily I hadn't been able to face food that morning so was already nil by mouth) and I was home last night.
For anyone out there who might sadly have to consider a d&c I wanted to let you know it was really ok. I had never had an anaesthetic or any type of operation before but it was quick and straightforward and the staff were amazingly supportive. The anaesthetic kept me under for the operation itself plus about 15 mins, and I woke up feeling strangely refreshed and relatively comfortable. I was in hospital for a few hours for observation then home at 7pm, having gone for the op at 2pm. I've had light bleeding but not too bad, and feel a bit uncomfortable (sort of achy) but ibuprofen helps..
So... it isn't pleasant but it really isn't so bad - far easier than I thought it would be, and less painful. I'm sure it's different for everyone but hopefully, if you do have to go through this, it'll be ok. The emotional side is definitely the tougher part. In many ways, the procedure and the busy-ness around it was a distraction so the immense sadness is just hitting me more today. Though I'm sure it'll get easier.
Anyway, good luck to anyone out there going through something similar and take care x
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cmt0209 · 18/05/2011 11:00
So sorry to hear your sad news, and for your loss Whatsoever. You were on the December thread weren't you? So wish were were still there, instead of here, but such is life. Still lurk there every now and then (although I don't necessarily know whether this is a good or bad idea - depends on how I'm feeling that day).
Hope your recovery is quick and as painless as possible. Like cmt, I had very little bleeding and practically no pain. back to work one week later, physically fine. Emotionally, however, well .... it's a rollercoaster we have no option but to ride 
. I get a lot of comfort from knowing that people on here know and understand how I feel though.
And sorry for your loss too cmt. I thought your post was very thoughtful. The first thing I did when considering what the heck to do myself was come on here and look for advice on what the surgery was like. I'm sure many more people will have read this and found it really helpful.
cmt I haven't asked but we were planning to start TTC as soon as we felt emotionally ready. Talked about it last night and I said I was worried if we tried straight away and it worked we might spend the whole time terrified it would happen again but DH pointed out we probably will anyway and I think he's right.
Friends of ours miscarried and got pregnant again immediately and had been told you are super fertile immediately following a MC. No idea if that is fact or myth but we figured worth a try given it took 10 months to get pregnant this time.
I wish you both all the luck in the world when you are ready to TTC again 
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