I am not sure where to post this Topic- so if I need re directing I am happy to take advice.
Dh and I have had three miscarriages and one stillbirth. We then planned to adopt from China- took three years to go through HS and get our papers LID in China only to find delays now meant a referral not poss until 2017 , maybe 2019. He has always said he wouldn't consider surrogacy. But today when I started to cry- again- in a shopping centre (they are vile places, okay) because 'everyone' had dc's and not us- he said he was now willing to consider it when I am fit again (I have to have an ovary removed for reasons I won't bore you)
This is rather like Paul McCartney suddenly asking for a Big Mac or John Prescott entereing strictly come dancing. To say I am amazed is an understatement. But happy and hopeful for first time in YEARS.
But where to start? DH is 40 and I am 50. We have been married 12 years. We are relatively well off, live in the countryside in a large detached house with a big garden- we bough it to have kids in-but would any surrogate look twice at us because of our ages and how do we find one. Has anyone been there done that and would be willing to talk to us about their experience?
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Kitsichick · 12/02/2011 20:34
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