pg straight after mc with no period

[mummytomax]

I had a mc at almost 7 weeks pg mid December. This was my second pregnancy, DS is 2 yrs old. Although advised to wait until periods had returned I have become pg again only 2 weeks after the mc occurred and have had no period in between. My GP has said that this should not make any difference and the only reason to wait until after period is for dating purposes. I think I am now about 5 weeks but have to wait until 8 for a viability scan (if I make it to 8). The feelings are still so raw from the mc and although I'm over the moon to be pg again I'm a nervous wreck thinking that every twinge, pain, cramp etc is the start of it all going wrong. Has anyone else experience pregnancy so soon after mc and how were you able to get through those first few weeks without suffering anxiety and paranoia? When I was pg with DS I didn't have any cramps or pains whatsoever the first few weeks, but I had lots of cramping from conception until mc with 2nd preganancy. I've been experiencing these pains again so I feel like I'm just waiting for the inevitable.
I know people go through some terrible experiences and mine is nothing in comparison and I feel guilty for getting in such a state when I'm so lucky already.

[upturnj]

Hi there, I too got pregnant last March which was 5 weeks after my 3rd miscarriage and gave birth 5 weeks ago. I also have a 2yr old and there were no similarities with the pregnancies. I was paranoid about every twinge and pain and I think that's just normal. Congratulations and I hope this one sticks.
Best wishes

[freshmint]

Congratulations, how lovely for you!
2 friends of mine had this. It think it is quite common. Their little ones are now 9 and 10 and they have both said that it made them accept their mcs more, because if they hadn't had the mc they wouldn't have their lovely son/daughter which is unimaginable.

I'm sure you'll be OK this time - best of luckxx

[mummytomax]

Thanks for your replies, happy stories like yours are what I need to hear right now. Time to start focusing on the positive and what will be will be.

[freshmint]

focus on the fact that it is very likely you'll be posting on breastfeeding threads in 8 months!
seriously, look after yourself. xx

[jaylee89]

hi mummytomax i am going through a miscarriage at the moment but me and my dh want to ttc straight away.....ive been reading on google that alot of women gt pregnant very very quickly after a mc....congratulations!....i hope the same happeneds to me.....and i hope you go on to have a beautiful and healthy baby your are in my thoughts.......take care of yourself....slight cramping is very common in very early pregnancy good luck sweetie xxx

[mummytomax]

jaylee89 I really am sorry to hear about your mc. I know it doesn't matter what anyone says to you, it just hurts like hell.

Everyone is different and I know some people have said they preferred to wait for their body to settle down and to start feeling a bit better emotionally.
For me it was different, like you I felt that I wanted to become pregnant straight away and I feel I've been extremely lucky it happening so quickly.

I wasn't aware until I became pregnant again and started looking online about being extra fertile after mc, but it seems a lot of people including some medical professionals believe that's true. Apparently progesterone levels are already higher from being recently pregnant which can make it easier to conceive and your body is trying to make up for what it's lost.

You're in my thoughts also and I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you over the next few weeks that you get the news you want. If it doesn't happen straight away try and stay positive and relax. (Says me!) Let's hope we're both on the pregnancy boards and 2011 brings us a healthy, happy baby.

Upturnj - many congratulations on your new arrival, so good to hear a happy ending.

[hairyfairylights]

Hi mummytomax I am now pregnant for the third time in nine months (ectopic, followed by MMC) - I had one period (Xmas eve) and have now become pregnant.

I get what you mean about being over the moon, but scared too, and I am noticing all the twinges etc.

Ideally I'd have liked a bit more time to get over the last mc, but I don't have time on my side (early forties)

I am just trying to take things a day at a time, and keep as relaxed as I can.

Good luck!

[mummytomax]

Hi hairyfairylights. It seems wrong for me to say it's good to hear from someone who's going through a similar thing at the moment, but it's just so horrible these sad experiences have to happen at all and to so many of us. Although it sounds as though you've had an extra tough time over the last 9 months. When did you find out about this pregancy? I assume you'll be referred for an early scan? It's difficult to work out my due date due to me not having a period but I'm guessing it will be mid-late September. Are you about the same?

Like you said, one day at a time, there isn't anything else we can do but wait and hope.

[hairyfairylights]

Hi mymmytomax no not wrong at all. I think that those of us who have experienced the sadness of miscarriage of a very much wanted child can support each other, because we know what it really feels like. I have had so much incredible support here.

I only found out Monday night! (I am about three weeks pregnant!). I had a consultant appointment today to follow up on my ERPC after the MMC in November.

The consultant has advised me to take aspirin 75mg per day, and I am having hcg test done next Friday to check if it is progressing. And a six week scan on 4th Feb.

Because of my experiences, I am not getting too excited - am not even seeing it as a baby yet - and we are not telling anyone until 12 weeks - if we get that far.

I had my period in December (24th) 30 days after the erpc and hey presto, I am pregnant again now .

Lets keep in touch - I'll check back on this thread to see how you are doing

Take good care!

[hairyfairylights]

just worked out we are about the same pregnant, if your mc was mid december, I'm possibly a week behind you! :)

[pigletmania]

Oh congratulations hairyfairy so theres hope for me. I am currently MC, my 2nd one, and will try again as soon as bleeding has stopped.

[hairyfairylights]

Thank you piglet there is hope!

Obviously I am really scared right now and I don't know yet how it's going to pan out, but there is deffo hope of getting pregnant again!

[pigletmania]

it took me all blooming year to concieve this one. keeping everyting crossed for you

[RunJHC]

so glad to come across this thread. have been miscarrying yesterday/today - was only 5 weeks but still upsetting.

had scan today and all seems to have been straightforward so was just talking to DH about whether we can just get on with ttc without waiting for next period.

obviously will need to see how i feel as still quite raw but glad that there are others who feel impatient about ttc again ! best of luck with next pregnancies - fingers crossed for everyone.

[CaptainNancy]

Hi- I was due 1st Nov, miscarried, then got pg straight away, and due date Jan 21st.... he's 2 next month
It does happen, and the pg was fine in terms of no spotting, cramping etc.

Best of luck!

[pigletmania]

Runjhc just trying again will make me feel like i am doing something, the hope can start again, not whilst i am sitting down doing nothing for 3 months, I really cant do that.

[Phlebas]

I've conceived immediately after two of my miscarriages; both pregnancies resulted in full term, live births.

First time, ds1, was after mc IVF twins at 14 weeks (had been ttc for 4 years ), the second time was dd2 after a miscarriage at nearly 17 weeks.

Good luck!

[mummytomax]

Ok, so before I was panicking about the cramps, pains and twinges etc, but now for the last 2 days I've had nothing. I don't know what's worse and I've still got another 3 weeks until my 8 week scan! I'm not one to wish my life away especially as my 2 year old is so entertaining right now, but I wish I could just fast forward the next 3 weeks. My mc in December was at 6+5 and I'm now 5+3. I can't remember how I felt at this stage even though it was only 7 weeks ago but I think I had a lot more cramps than I've had this time. HairyFairyLights, how's things going for you? Have you got any pregnancy symptoms yet?

[maximum1206]

Hi Mummytomax, have been lurking on Mumsnet for sometime but this is the first time I've posted because we appear to have lots in common! I also have a DS called Max who is 2 years old and me and DH have been trying to conceive a little brother or sister for him since June 2009. I got pregnant in October 2009 but unfortunately MC at 7 weeks in Nov. It then took 13 long months to conceive again but I once again miscarried at 7+4 on Boxing Day. Like you I was desparate to be pregnant again straight away so we started again as soon as the bleeding stopped. I am now in the 2WW so am hoping and praying that by some miracle I have managed to conceive straightaway, although realistically I thinks its unlikely (the quickest I have ever conceived was 5 months with my 2nd preg!)With regard to symptoms I had lots of cramping in the first few weeks with DS and with my 2nd preg but with the most recent one I had no cramping so as others have said I wouldn't stress about symptoms (or lack of them) because I'm sure all pregnancies are different. Sending you lots of good luck wishes for a very happy and healthy pregnancy - and fingers crossed I'll be joining you with a BFP very soon!

[maximum1206]

P.S Meant to say hello to all you other ladies on this thread, hope 2011 is a great year for all of us!

[strawberrylace]

fingers crossed to all of you for good news. i had an early miscarriage in feb last year, then got pregnant straight away with my twins, who arrived 6 weeks early at the end of october. i understood that you could be more fertile straight after a miscarriage, so i hope it works for you as well. was quite stressful waiting for the first scan at 12 weeks - but i forgot about that when the sonographer said it was twins!

[mummytomax]

Congratulations strawberrylace on the arrival of your twins. That must have been a wonderful surprise when you went for your scan. Thanks for letting us know your good news.

Hi maximum1206, thanks for responging, I'm really sorry to hear about your recent mc. It definitely seems a lottery on how quickly it can take to conceive. It took over a year for me to become pg with DS and we were in the early stages of fertility investigations when it happened naturally. It was a total shock to become pg after 2 months with my 2nd pregnancy and this one even more so. I must have become pg only 3 days after the bleeding stopped, when conceiving again was the last thing on my mind.

I hope you'll be have some happy news to share soon, keep me posted.

I'm feeling a bit better than I was earlier. I had a bit of a dizzy spell this afternoon so I'm hoping that's a good sign. I never thought I'd be wanting to suffer horrible pregnancy symptoms!

[mummytomax]

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[notheroldie]

Well this has just happened to me too. I had 2 MC last year. An Erpc beg of Nov and didnt have a period so did a test and it was positive. I was stunned it happened so quickly (and without really trying).

But between 6-7 wks I had brown loss and clots and was sooo scared and thought it was all happening again. My GP arranged a scan a few days later and I was sobbing all the way to the hospital. BUT the scan showed a HB and I just burst out crying with relief. (my 2MC didnt get this far) They dated me as 8wk 2 days, (now 9 wks).

I'm still scared to death that things wont work out, but at least I got further than before.
Its a roller coaster all the way. I hope you can relax a bit and have the good news on a scan like I did. X

[maximum1206]

Congratulations notheroldie! That's really great news, hope you have a lovely easy pregnancy this time. x