Had my 20 week sca a few weeks ago and baby seemed fine apart from being slightly small so I was booked for another scan last tuesday. i wasn't worried as the same happened a few months ago with my sister and everything was fine. Tuesday's scan showed baby had not grown and amniotic fluid had practically all gone. They explained that the outcome was poor and my options were to wait it out or terminate now. They sent me home to think about it, all Tuesday night I couldn't sleep as baby was constantly kicking but Wednesday I went to see my midwife and talk i tout with her. We went back to hospital yesterday and there was no heatbeat. Baby had made the decision for us, I'd had a feeling that had happened and to be honest I was relieved as it meant we did not have to make any decisions. Now I have to be induced boxing day. I have already told the midwive that I don't want to see the baby or have any service, (if before wednesday when I'm 24 weeks then we avoid having to register a stillbirth) I'm finding the best way to cope is not thinking of it as a person, this may sound really heartless but I already have 3 kids and I think this was just Fate's way of telling me I should have stopped at 3. All my other pregnancies were easy and my 3 kids are wonderful, healthy and bright. People are finding it odd that I am so practical about it all as they are expecting me to be an emotional wreck... I wonder if I am being heartless? All through this pregnancy I have not felt connected to the baby at all, I couldn't get excited about choosing names and I kept forgetting I was even pregnant... I wonder if maybe I knew it would never actually happen.
We are still having Christmas, with all the family over and I am cooking for 10 tomorrow. This is good for me as it keeps me busy and stops me thinking about the next stage, which for me will be the hardest. The idea of going through labour, all that pain, when there's no baby at the end just seems impossible.
I'm not sure why I am posting this just wanted to write down my feelings, but if anyone who's been through similar wants to share then feel free. I would like to hear from people who've had to be induced following a miscarriage as this aspect is really freaking me out...
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rhiannon134 · 24/12/2010 14:09
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