What to do to help a freind?

[IBlameThePenguins]

Hi,

I hope that you don't mind me posting here. Please let me know if it's inappropriate and I'll take it down straight away.

I've just found out that my colleague has had her third miscarriage in the space of a year. She told me she was pregnant a little while ago, and a mutual friend told me today that she has lost her baby.

We are friends, but not incredibly close. She pops around to my house occasionally for a glas of wine and a gossip.

I don't want her to feel like I'm prying, but I really want her to know I'm thinking of her. Do you think it would be appropriate to pop a card through her door saying something along the lines of "Just to let yo know that I'm thinking of you both, and am here if you need anyone or anything" ?

I just feel so devestated for her, and really want her to know that she's not alone right now.

TIA for any advice

xx

[Olipop]

I think that would be lovely. And maybe even tell her you are free on a certain evening a few days away and would she like to go for a glass of wine somewhere. Give her something concrete to look forward to. I had two miscarriages before having my 2 DC and the worst thing was when people either didn't register it at all or tried to brush it off as not important as 'you were only just pregnant'. I lost at 8 weeks and 11 weeks and to me, pregnant is pregnant. She is lucky to have a friend who is so caring.

[banana87]

I also think that would be lovely. I just had my second mc and I have appreciated kind thoughts and words from everyone, even if I wasn't the one to tell them the news.

[IBlameThePenguins]

Thank You for you replies ladies, and I am so sorry for your losses. Truly I am.

I will pop her a card in tomorrow.Olipop, I like your idea of suggesting an evening. I'll do that too.

Thanks again. I think you're both remarkably brave.

xxx