how long?

[k1r5t1e]

Hi all can you please tell me if i have to wait untill after my next period before trying to get caught again, i had a missed miscarriage at 10 and half weeks our baby died around 8 and half weeks....I had eprc last thursday 23/09/10 i am still bleeding and still had a positive pregnancy test yesterday :( me and my partner are devastated as we have been trying to have a baby for 3 years and this was the way it ended :( we do want to try again and iv read on several websites that your most fertile up to 2months after eprc because the hospital clean everything out of your womb is this true?? We are desperate for a baby and our angel we have just lost will never be forgotton or replaced but can i get pregnant straight away and if i can is there a higher chance i will miscarry again or that something will be wrong with our baby...

[youremindmeofthebabe]

Hello. So sorry for your loss.

As far as I can tell, through extensive reading, there's no reason not to try again straight away, the doctors say to wait for "dating" purposes. However there is a school of thought that having an ERPC can thin the lining of the womb so significantly that a pregnancy has not got enough womb wall to stick to. So the answer is nobody really knows! some people seem to have sucessful pregnancies straight after miscarriage, and others don't. You need to do what's best for you.

Sorry, that's not much help is it?

[georgiepie]

Hi - I had a MMC and had my ERPC last Thursday just like you. Were also wanting to TTC asap. It is heartbreaking to keep getting BFP on test and I am waiting for that to go before we get more active TTC.

Over this last week I have been scanning mumsnet and I think that if you are up for it and feel well both emotionally and physically there is nothing to stop you.

I am 41 and panic that I am to old. We had been trying for a long time too - lets hope we both have something to look forward to. Big hugs xx

[MummyAbroad]

Hi, I am so sorry for your loss.

I also had a mmc medically managed at first and then an ERPC.

There is lots of really good information here about when to try again.

I have never seen any information to support your theory that you are more fertile for the first two months after an ERPC, but recently studies have been published overturning the WHO's previous advice to wait 6 months before TTC. Here is an article from the Guardian describing the study

I think that if you wait until you have your first period this will help reduce A LOT of anxiety. Its not just the doctors who want to know about dates, you will want to know the baby is normal size at a scan and before 12 weeks you cant tell this without dates.

You will feel very anxious about TTC again anyway, so why not do everything you can to reduce it?

If you really cant wait for your period,

1. wait until you test negative on a home pregnancy test, after mc it takes a while for pregnancy hormones to leave your system and you need to know if a positive test means pregnancy or still recovering from mc.
   
   
2. Try and work out when you ovulate so that you have some idea about dates
   
   Also, please dont underestimate that you do need a lot of time to recover emotionally too. Even if your body is ready, taking some time to grieve now can help you get over it all quicker in the long run.
   
   best wishes to you xxxxxxxxxxxx

[k1r5t1e]

Hi thank you for your replys i have finally stopped bleeding today which is good but i have to wait untill monday before i can test again and hopefully it will test negative... I know it may sound strange but i feel ready in myself to try again maybe this is because i never actually felt pregnant before?? how can we work out when we ovulate and is my miscarriage classed from the baby died or when i had erpc please help xx

[MummyAbroad]

Hi K1

I'm glad you have stopped bleeding. Thats one small hurdle over at least.

When to trying again for a baby is a completely individual choice, you must do whats right for you, so if you feel ready then that is not strange at all.

In terms of your cycle starting up again, I dont know if you can use the ERPC date or mc diagnosis but there is lots of info here about cycles starting up again. I personally counted ERPC date as Day 1 and expected a very odd cycle (it is affectionately known on MN as the WTF cycle )


You should also read this about when its OK to have sex again, this says one week is too soon.

You can use Ovulation Predictor Kits (buy them on Amazon, much cheaper than at the pharmacy) to tell if you are ovulating (there is no guarantee though, it can be hit and miss) and take you temperature every day to know AFTER it has happened. See www.fertilityfriend.com, there are really great tutorials on here to explain how it works.

Before doing any of this though, I would recomend having a good read of this site, so that you can know what to expect about physical and emotional recovery
pregnancyloss.info/

Sorry to have bombarded you with links!, take it slow, it will all be OK in the end.


a big hug for you,
xxxxxxx