I wondered if any of you could help me?
We lost our little baby at 14 weeks last Friday. I went into labour and was rushed to hospital where they found the baby had no heartbeat. It took me 8 1/2 hours to deliver our little baby (the hospital experience was appalling and we shall be complaining) and I am feeling totally bereft.
I understand that nature has a way of dealing with things. I cannot get my head around the fact that 2 days before we had an in depth scan showing the baby to be absolutely fine, jumping and somersaulting about. I have a beautiful 3 year old already but developed pre-eclampsia with him, at 27 weeks, and was in and out of hospital until he was delivered at 4lb 13 ozs at 36 weeks.So my placenta was deteriorating in my first pregnancy.
The consultant has told me that my placenta this time did not develop properly, and the scan showed a much reduced blood flow to my uterus, indicating that had the pregnancy progressed further, I would definately have developed pre-eclampsia again. I only had 20% of the normal Hcg in my blood so the placenta was never going to be able to grow the baby to full term. We would really like to try again but I am so very worried that the same thing will happen again. We are waiting for the results of a postmortem to confirm everything, but my GP and consultant say to get "right to it" but I know I will be worried sick.
I guess I am asking if anyone else has had this happen to them, or is it a case of me having too much information to worry about, and it may have just been a fluke and freak of nature and nothing to stress about? This pregnancy was very painful from the word go, I was VERY sick and felt dreadful, and I didn't feel that I "connected" with this baby like I did with my first. I just knew he was a boy from the beginning, and I couldn't "see" with this one. I feel so terrible for thinking this and saying it out loud as I loved our little baby so much and am devasted that we have lost it, but could this have been a sign?
I'm so sorry for waffling and ranting. Everything is so raw and we were given no support at the hospital. Not a leaflet or phone number in sight. My GP, who has had 2 miscarriages herself, gave me this website address and it feels better to know I am not alone.I feel guilty, and sad and angry and lost and understand that there may not be answers to my questions. Thank you for allowing me to share.
Big hugs, Ali x
PS I'm 38
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Miscarriage after 14 weeks. Can anyone give me any advice?
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leosmummy19 · 22/09/2010 17:12
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