Firstly - sorry to post and run. Have to be out this pm but will check responses later.
Literally just found out that B&SIL have had 20wk scan & been told that there is no heartbeat
I am absolutely gutted for them. We are quite close despite living v far apart. We have a 10.5mo DS and baby would have been their first - also no previous pregnancies. Much made of having cousins etc.
Will find out from FIL if they want phone calls or not. If not, plan to send email saying things along the line of (paraphrasing) gutted for them... then I run dry. What to say? everything I think of sounds glib
Nothing you could do, please don't blame yourself (sort of thing) SIL likely to be thinking her fault in some way as is her personality (she is lovely)
Don't want to inadvertantly venture into 'no-no' territory with things to say. Trying to think what I'd want/need/not mind hearing in revers situation but mind gone blank.
so very . Trying not to cry myself, feels self indulgent. They were so happy and looking forward to the birth.
Advice?
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What to say on first contact after 20wk scan bad news
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snugglejunkie · 17/09/2010 15:17
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