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Menopause

How many of you don’t use contraception?

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Mackers123 · 24/11/2018 22:07

Hi i’m just wondering really. Ive just read that the over 50’s have 1% chance of getting pregnant.

Ive not had a period since January and before that it was June. I’ve just started the mini pill which i’d rather not be on tbh

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Mum2jenny · 24/11/2018 22:10

I'm playing Russian roulette. Personally I do not think I'll get pregnant, but I'm taking no measures to stop pregnancy other than not dtd very often.

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Mackers123 · 24/11/2018 22:32

me and partner are seriously considering this. i think the pill is making me depressed. Mum2jenny are you not having periods like me?

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Redshoeblueshoe · 24/11/2018 22:33

If it's making you depressed why aren't you using condoms ?

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Mum2jenny · 24/11/2018 22:36

No periods, but was on the pill for many years.

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Mum2jenny · 24/11/2018 22:37

I loathe condoms,I'd sooner be pregnant than use them!!

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Mum2jenny · 24/11/2018 22:39

I found the Billings method of contraception worked for me. Not saying it's right for every one though.

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Mackers123 · 24/11/2018 22:41

i also hate condoms. what is the Billings method?

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Mum2jenny · 24/11/2018 22:50

Google it, it gives you a good idea when to have sex and when to abstain. It's not anywhere near 100% effective, so don't use it if a pregnancy is a complete no no.

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Mum2jenny · 24/11/2018 22:51

You can use it as a method for conceiving though.

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QueenoftheNights · 25/11/2018 08:02

The advice is you have to be 2 years post meno (under 50) to abaondon contraception and 1 year if you are over 50. That means 12 months with no period.

It's playing Russian Roulette because your body can have one last surge hormonally and produce eggs towards the end of your fertile life.

You can become pregnant but the likelihood is you'd miscarry or have a child with genetic abnormalities.

Is it really worth the risk for another year or so?

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MaidenMotherCrone · 25/11/2018 08:11

I was very fertile, got pregnant straight away with my 3 children, but now I’m not. I’ve had unprotected sex for the last 4 years and feel now, at 50, the likelihood of getting pregnant is so slim to be virtually non existent. If it did happen I wouldn’t have the child.

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cptartapp · 25/11/2018 08:18

Be careful. My friend who had IVF 16 years ago to have twins, has just givens birth to her second set of twins naturally at 47. Completely unplanned.

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Mackers123 · 25/11/2018 08:21

i do know all that Queenofthenights but i just think 1% is v. low. ive never been pregnant so i don’t even know if i was ever fertile. but obviously i could be that 1% and be unlucky and fall pregnant. i was curious to how many don’t use protection as it’s not something people talk about.

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Mackers123 · 25/11/2018 08:22

MaidenMother how long have you not had a period for?

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QueenoftheNights · 25/11/2018 08:41

My DH had a former friend whose mum became pregnant at 49. The child had learning difficulties.

I used contraception till I was 52. My periods were a bit hit and miss for about 9 months prior to that. The last one was about 52.5

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Vintagegoth · 25/11/2018 08:49

I take the mini pill and it has stopped my periods for the last 18 months. If you are on the mini pill, do not take lack of periods as a sign that you are menopausal. Only way to tell is to come off the pill and use other methods of contraception and see if your period returns.

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Mackers123 · 25/11/2018 08:51

ive not had a period since January last year and before that one it was June.

I think you could always find a story of someone who did get pregnant, i think the statistics are 13 a year for over 50 but most of them were through ivf or similar.

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Mackers123 · 25/11/2018 08:54

sorry correction last period Jan this year, before that June. Ive just looked back and mosty throughout 2016/7 it was every other month

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Mackers123 · 25/11/2018 08:57

Vintage goth i have only been on the mini pill for around 3 weeks before that i wasn’t using anything because i didn’t have to so i’m pretty up on when my last natural period was

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MaidenMotherCrone · 25/11/2018 09:07

Op I’m still having periods Shock, I’m peri menopausal.

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thedevilinablackdress · 25/11/2018 09:21

Faculty of sexual and reproductive health guidelines for contraception in women over 40, chapter 6:

www.fsrh.org/standards-and-guidance/documents/fsrh-guidance-contraception-for-women-aged-over-40-years-2017/

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QueenoftheNights · 25/11/2018 09:47

Mackers no one can decide for you. There is a risk, even if it's a small one, no doubt about that.

If you are happy to take the risk and then have a termination, that is the choice only you can make.

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Hiphopopotamous · 25/11/2018 12:54

A work colleague (medical) got pregnant this year in her early 50s while she was on HRT. It happens.

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Hiphopopotamous · 25/11/2018 12:56

I guess you have to ask yourself whether you could go through a termination or bring up a child at your age - if you couldn't face either you need to be more careful.

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shouldidoitspoilt · 25/11/2018 12:57

It's crazy that you would use a termination as your only method of "family planning" or "contraception" it's actually bordering on unethical.
Use a condom, withdrawal method or take the pill and suck it up.
Being willing to fall potentially pregnant and then have a termination is bonkers.

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